MOST PSYCHOLOGISTS ARE TERRIBLE – BUT:
For my money a few of the ‘relationship craftspeople’ are far better than most couple’s therapists. (Sarah Dawn Moore esp).
I’ve started listening to some credential psychologists on YT who are trying to help people with dating and relationships recently. And there is something maybe good, and something a bit off and maybe bad, and I can’t quite disambiguate what that is. I think it’s the analogies they use when I’d expect ordinary incentives. That might be because education level (or intelligence) determines the frame in which you can be influenced by a psychologist’s means of suggestion. So maybe some of these people are used to talking to children and they’re just doing a terrible job talking to adults
CAUSALITY IS OBVIOUS
The economics of relationships are now asymmetric for the first time since the beginning of the agrarian expansion and the necessity of territory and assets for inheritance: women can play the androgynous role of social female, mother, economic worker, political taxpayer, which suppresses her femininity, but femininity is the only ‘good’ women provide men with.
Second, with the burden of taxation, education, and 30 year mortages, a two-parent family isn’t sufficiently advantageous for either party – unless one doesn’t HAVE to work, but works for the social satisfaction and security.
So really, other than sex there is too little value (utility) in marriage for too many people. As such, we should expect to see a return to marriage, serial monogamy, and no-monogamy that roughly reflects class structure. And we do.
And we should expect to see fertile attractive women sharing a small number of sexual relations increasingly as we decline in class. And we should expect marital rotation, and infrequent marital stability – which we do and will.
So, the question is, how do we produce a happy healthy population in the absence of majority nuclear-to-traditional families, without the social economic and political consequences that occur every other time this has happened? (Collapse).
My expectation is that the current sexual ‘market crash’ will somewhat correct , and more so as the end of the american world trade system ends over the next decade or two. But that the lower classes, maybe even much of the middle class, are lost.
And this will exacerbate the sex, culture, and race warfare that’s been escalating since the industrial revolution began.
I don’t counsel relationships any longer. But I when I did, I simply worked on ‘what is the truth that you aren’t telling one another’. If the truth is unbearable, then the relationship can’t stand. Most of the time, the truth does solve the problem one way or another.