Theme: Ethnoculture

CULTURAL OBSERVATIONS : MASCULINE FEMININE RELATIONS

Ukrainian woman are probably the most prized in the world. Part of it’s genetics, and part of it’s culture, but the most important part is the female self image.

They see being feminine is power. Pretty much all of them. I won’t go into depth on the topic right now. I’m still working at understanding the behavior here. But it has a lot to do with the fact that women do not perceive themselves as weak. And because of this, there isn’t the same stratification by appearance and class that exists in the states and canada. It’s fascinating.

In mating rituals, I’ve had a few interesting observations so far.

1) In the states a marriage is a business partnership that hopefully has some sentimental content. This is partly an effect of our high trust society. We have been dating outside the family in northern europe for a thousand years. And the transient society and the melting pot, as well as the sexual liberation have changed the ritual into one that filters relationships over time, while preserving the option to exit easily.

Here, Men court women they don’t date them. It’s a pursuit. The depth of this isn’t really something I understood. Men chase women here and women decide. But men don’t sort of idly date a bunch of women. I mean, I’m exaggerating this a bit for effect but it’s the only way I can articulate it right now. Over time I’ll get better at it. Subtlety isn’t appreciated. It’s weakness. I guess that’s the best way I can manage to describe it. (I know that there is a book somewhere on how people think in the east. I have to find it. I’ve heard it mentioned but not it’s title or author yet.)

2) Women are much more mature at a much earlier age. (perhaps that’s true for both genders) But it’s much more obvious that women are at least ten years ahead of their western counterparts.

4) there is a shortage of men, and a shortage of economically productive men. But unlike in the states where a) you have a state that can be used to expropriate money from a man if you’re a woman and b) where there is a shortage of unproductive men in the lower classes, but lower class women can still earn enough to support themselves, women are still accountable for their mating decisions here. Which is something I don’t like about the western way of doing things. And the shortage of men increases the natural problem of fewer desirable men than desirable women in any given population. So the women work harder at it because a) they see it as power and b) they have greater competition.

3) The ‘Crazy’ factor that seems so prevalent in the west doesn’t see to exist here in anywhere near the same proportions. This is the part I find really fascinating. I want to understand it. It has something to do with the feeling of individual power instead of externally recognized status, and something to do with the fact that it is absolutely acceptable for a woman to vent emotions here ‘so that she can have a rational conversation’. And this is only possible because there is an agreement between men and women that this is how the world SHOULD operate and MUST operate.

4) I didn’t see it at first but the culture of white lies is absolutely insane. You literally cannot believe anything anyone says. Asia has the same problem. It prevents a high trust society from forming. And when you lived under governments that force you to lie, and force you into black markets, then of course you get certain norms. And these people have those norms.

Anyway. This is probably too amateurish a bit of opining. But I’d rather form my own opinions and then read the opinion of an authority. That way I can understand myself and my misjudgments better, than I would read an authority and see everything through that person’s lens, assuming that I possessed the same level of insight.

That would be unscientific. lol