ECONOMICS OF FEMALE REJECTION
The emotional cost of rejecting someone an attempt at seduction is higher than the emotional cost of rejecting someone for attempting to obtain attention by gifts. The first is a rejection of the individual, the second a rejection of the individual that is attributable to the thing.
LOL. Women are fascinating creatures.
Source date (UTC): 2013-04-09 03:27:00 UTC
https://www.quora.com/How-does-a-police-officer-determine-if-a-woman-is-lying
Why is it that women in this country never refuse a request to dance, no matter how drunk or unattractive the man is?
I mean if you tossed women around the dance floor like a rag doll in the states, if the bouncer let you live the patrons wouldn’t.
Wth.
Source date (UTC): 2013-04-06 18:08:00 UTC
FREUD IS WEARING A SLIP? 🙂
What is it called when you say one thing and mean another?
1) A slip of the tongue (parapraxis) where a word is accidentally replaced by another. In a nervous setting, a slip of the tongue can be called a Freudian Slip.
2) It can also be innuendo, whereby ones says something which is apparently innocent but means something else, usually of a sexual nature.
3) It can be metaphor, where a difficult idea is expressed in simple or picturesque terms eg “It’s raining cats and dogs” to mean “Its raining heavily”.
4) It can be euphemism, where the word(s) used substitute for other words or ideas that are being avoided, for reasons of sensitivity, secrecy, etc.
5) It can be hyperbole, (exaggeration) where the truth is stretched for emphasis eg “I’ve told you a million times not to do that” when you mean “I’ve told you many times”
6) It can be metonym, where a simple idea is used to represent a larger concept eg the White House to represent the US presidency.
7) It can be slang. A Londoner might say “Where’s my trouble and strife” when he means “Where’s my wife”
8) It can be a malapropism where a word is accidentally replaced by a similar sounding one eg “I can say without fear of contraception..” instead of “I can say without fear of contradiction..”
9) It can be a spoonerism, where the initial letters of two words are swapped eg saying “Its roaring with pain” instead of “Its pouring with rain”
10) If it is intentional, is called deceit, lying, misleading, mendacity.
At least for this particular writer and speaker, malapropism is an almost guaranteed daily occurrence.
When talking quickly I often skip words, to confusing and sometimes humorous effect.
I am really conscious of my tendency to make freudian slips so I’m careful when I’m nervous.
I intentionally use hyperbole because it is the only access to decent humor available to me. :0
THANKS TO ANSWERS.COM FOR THIS CONTRIBUTION TO HUMOR
Source date (UTC): 2013-04-05 14:40:00 UTC
http://www.amazon.com/dp/0805814027/ref=tsm_1_fb_lkPREDICTING DIVORCE / RELATIONSHIP SUCCES
I am about as opposite from the postmodern, progressive, new age, nonsensical fabricated reality that a person can be. But I do care about normal human relationships.
John Gottman has made a career out of studying marriages both successful an failed. He has written a series of books, (all which say the same thing.) But it’s based upon pretty good science. This article is a brief summary of why relationships fail. It is why my marriage to Allora failed when the disagreements became greater than each other could tolerate.
I remember sitting in the living room looking up at her and saying “Do you tell everyone you know how much you hate your husband?’. And countless times “I’m flooded.” Which in male terms means your brain has shut down from all the negative emotion, and you don’t have any emotions any longer, you’re just numb. It’s not that you don’t care. It’s that nothing is working at all.
1) Harsh Start To Conversation: “When one partner begins the discussion using a harsh startup, such as being negative, accusatory or using contempt, the discussion is basically doomed to fail.”
2) Criticism: “Why are you so selfish? It was really nasty of you to lead me on.
You should have told me earlier that you were too tired to make love.”
3) Contempt: Criticism can lead to contemptuous comments directed at one’s partner. Some examples of contempt are when a person uses “sarcasm, cynicism, name-calling, eye rolling, sneering, mockery, and hostile humor”
Contempt communicates disgust.
4) Defense: Becoming defensive is the usual reaction to being treated with contempt or criticized, but it is not a solution. It simply means they don’t know what else to do.
5) Tune Out / Stonewalling: The escalating conflict usually leads to one partner tuning out the other and stonewalling.
6) Flooding: Flooding means that your spouse’s negativity – whether in the guise of criticism or contempt or even defensiveness – is so overwhelming and so sudden, that it leaves you disconnected, numb and confused.”
7) Body Language: Physiological changes in the body that coincide with flooding, such as an increased heart rate, the secretion of adrenalin, and an increase in blood pressure, are the fourth sign that enables Gottman to predict divorce. These physiological changes in the body make it impossible to maintain the discussion. Creative problem solving disappears You’re left
with the most reflexive, intellectually unsophisticated responses in your repertoire: to fight (act critical, contemptuous, or defensive) or flee (stonewall) A problem solving discussion that leads to one or both partners becoming
flooded is doomed to fail. Consequently, their problem cannot be resolved.
8) The next sign that a marriage is bound to end in divorce is when one
partner’s attempts at repairing the conflict fails. Repair attempts are efforts made by the couple to deescalate the conflict.
9) The final sign that divorce is inevitable is when the couple recalls their past
life together with a negative view.
ADVICE
1) Start all discussions positively.
2) The “repair attempt” is the happy couple’s secret weapon.
NAGGING
Nagging does not work. You might think that you’re helping your man, but it does not work. Your spouse will always see nagging as criticism of failure, and helping as disapproval or accusation of weakness. Men live in a world of exchanges with men, and seeking approval from women. Women live in a world of caretaking. You cannot alter this reality. We could not exist as human beings if we did otherwise.
http://www.amazon.com/What-Predicts-Divorce-Relationship-Processes/dp/0805814027
Source date (UTC): 2013-03-31 05:21:00 UTC
WHY ARE HAPPY PEOPLE HAPPY?
Advice for teens and twenties.
Unfortunately, pervasive happiness comes in large part from biological predisposition due to the different productivity of inherited cerebral chemistry. These problems are exacerbated by lack of exercise, diet, low level allergic reaction, and minor illnesses that are often difficult if not impossible to detect until late in life. Thankfully prescription chemistry, exercise, and diet generally compensate for the average person long enough to change behavior and disposition.
2) Remember that until we mature fully, from the time we start adulthood, in males, lots of previous avenues for positive emotional stimulation are being shut off, and in females, lots of possible avenues for stimulation are being exaggerated. Each by different biochemistry. These changes place extraordinary challenges on our moods as we search for ways to maintain stable pleasurable inputs amidst ether decreasing avenues for getting them, or increasing sensitivity to negatives amidst a scarcity of positives. The only known way to combat it is actually exercise and socialization. But the school system’s emphasis on keeping people of similar age together instead of mixing ages, among a majority of adults, makes it very difficult for both teens and twenties, who are surrounded by people in similar periods of biologically induced psychological confusion.
3) What can you do? Eat clean. Get hard exercise just a few times a week. (Yes, two hour sessions of very physical sex that make you sweat do count a little bit). If you get bored with exercise it just isn’t hard enough in a short enough period. And get drugs if you need to. As a side effect, a good deal of them actually make you quite a bit smarter – albiet slowly. And that’s always good for everyone.
4) Magic bullet? The magic bullet is team sports. It doesn’t matter which one. This allows our very human pack instinct to give you feedback without having to search for ‘spirituality’ or some other private means of achieving the feeling of safety and participation in the pack. (Yes, that’s what that spiritual feeling is caused by and why we like it so much.) As a nerd, I understand the problem with team sports, but hey, I played competitive video games. It works, just gotta get exercise elsewhere. Walking fast while shopping will do it believe it or not. Book on tape and walking fast is great for the brain. ‘Cause that nonsense you were taught from 5th-12th grade, other than math, is probably absolutely useless in today’s society. And because of multiculturalism, the teachers can’t teach you anything meaningful about history. And history is the only reasonable record of what humans actually do, rather than what we wish they did.
Cheers
Source date (UTC): 2013-03-30 06:58:00 UTC
FEELINGS
We all have feelings about norms. Often feelings about habits. Possibly about processes. But can you have feelings about formula or calculations? Why?
Source date (UTC): 2013-03-23 12:14:00 UTC
“ruth·less /ˈro͞oTHləs/ Adjective Having or showing no pity or compassion for others. feeling or showing no mercy; Synonyms merciless – pitiless – unmerciful – remorseless Propertarian translation: disregard for externalities. Different from ‘cruel’ which is to intentionally cause externalities.”
PSYCHOLOGICAL GAME OF THE DAY.
Pulling out of a hotel parking lot in to traffic.
Waiting.
Blonde boy, thin hair, black cap with skateboard asks “please. Please. Give me your car. Please?”
Mind races through multitude of life lessons i might deliver at this moment.
I choose one.
“What will you trade me for it?”
Shock. Open mouth. Silence. Fantasies fill his mind.
Before he can gater his wits “I want your soul.”
Incomprehension. Twinge of fear.
“I am the devil. I want your soul.”. I smile. “For the car.”
Half smile mixed with confusion. “yes!?”
“I thought so. I have it already.”
Smile. Notice a few horrified adult onlookers. Pull into traffic.
Never going to forget that moment. I’m sure.
Source date (UTC): 2013-01-26 17:16:00 UTC
WHY ARE FATHERS BETTER SINGLE PARENTS?
Ok. So the data is beginning to look like single fathers are much better parents producing happier and more successful children than single mothers.
Given the vast propaganda to the contrary, and the demonization of men by the feminist movement, why would this be true?
Is there some sort of selection bias? It looks like the researchers try to compensate for it in their models. What else could it be? Is it income or class related? (I suspect that it’s skewed heavily to the right). But the answer doesn’t just leap out at me.
There is something very valuable to be learned about parenting, and society in answering this question.
Source date (UTC): 2013-01-26 13:06:00 UTC