October 14th, 2018 9:16 AM
—“If a man/woman says that s/he’s too damaged for you (or too neurotic, or too anything) just take his/her word for it.”—
Translated : “I have to monitor myself when I am with you and I do not believe I will be able to maintain this behavior indefinitely because it’s exhausting.”
—“If you’re bored out of your mind at a venue, you’re probably not going to meet anyone there who you will want to date. Go where others are that you aren’t bored.”—
(My Market: Any Art Classes. Artsy girls are best. ) Most important reason? You find mates where you aren’t looking for them. So find something to do (primary) so that overzealousness doesn’t force you to see what isnt there.
–“Sometimes significant others have little annoying habits.”-
If you learn to love them, or accomodate them, that will work, but you cannot learn to tolerate, or ignore them. Doesn’t work.
–“Slutty behavior by either gender is a recipe for marital failure, and marital falure is far worse for your life than bankruptcy or business failure or losing multiple jobs.”–
Just the data. People who professionalize ‘shopping, trying out, and moving on’ develop the habit for life.
—“Alcohol and Drugs Do Not Improve With Age”—
Sorry. Just is. Everyone goes to college and tries. Those who don’t stop trying are always a problem. Cellular damage accumulates.
—“Find someone you feel very lucky to be with. the men who are ‘Players’ who commit do so because they found a woman worth commiting for: they can’t believe they got her. Women are different. They don’t want to think they have married down.”—
One party or the other must be totally committed no matter what. Men are loyal and women are devoted. There is a difference.
—“Men cheat for the sole purpose of sex, or because they are married to a nag, harpie, complainer. Women cheat to discover if they can trade up.”—
—“The current order where men and women are ‘equal’ poses a problem for women who want first tier men. The reason is that once you are successful, younger women who demand fewer compromises are always and everywhere preferable to older women to continue to privatize and monopolize your opportunities.”—
—“The current order where women are more fungible in the work force poses a problem for men: if you are a house husband or the equivalent you better stay (a) fit, (b) groomed, (c) interesting, and (d) involved in some activity with other males (e) save your own money overseas.”—
—“In general, all men should save their own exit money overseas”—
Just some life lessons…..