September 25th, 2018 8:58 AM
SELF AUTHORING – SUPPRESSION OF MAL-INTUITION
(suppression of the influence of cognitive biases)
—“Q: Hey Curt, do you have a thought on the use of self-affirmations to create change in the self? For example, do you consciously talk positively with yourself with the intent on changing your own perception (personal narrative) ? Or do you think such a practice of positive self-affirmation can be used as an effective way of changing one’s personal narrative?”—
Yes, that’s the essence of self authoring and stoicism is a formal approach to it.
Yes it works. Although you can only change to what is true and good from what is false and not good.
Most of the time I try to talk myself into either:
1 – ‘Be kind; be overly kind; they are only children, and doing the best they can in life.’ (It is very hard to control the autistic urge to anger and to punish perceived stupidity)
or
2 – ‘Keep going no matter what, no matter how hard, you always win in the end”
or
3 – “You can’t change that, and don’t need to, just do better in the future.”
or
4 – “People think about you a lot less than you imagine, and generally better than you imagine, so don’t worry about it”.
And those are things everyone probably needs to do. I don’t have the problem of ‘don’t take it personally’. I’m not agreeable enough to be affected by others. when they are wrong, only when I have been wrong.
I have a lot of guilt about my occasionally losing tolerance for mortals and losing battle with my autism and hurting or disappointing people I care about; my divorce and one other relationship i should have handled better (i was very ill in both circumstances); underperforming for my investors. And the only one of those I can fix is my investors.
cheers