We all want to belong to a group. Some of us less or more than others. But few of us want to be ostracized from it.
We can obtain that sense of belonging through empathy if we are similar, and duty if we are not. Empathy through shared interpretation. Duty through shared action in pursuit of mutually beneficial ends.
Women vary less. They sense more. At least, on average, they tend to belong through empathy. Men vary more. They sense less. They are action rather than perception oriented.
Dominance is the corollary of empathy. We must learn to use our dominance against the physical world, and in defense of life and property, and not as a means of self expression or control of others.
Misused empathy is just as dangerous as misused dominance. The damage we have done to the world by our supposedly charitable activities is as great as the damage we have done by war.
We have lost the ancient understanding of our dual natures.
To cohabitate and to cooperate politically we must master both empathy and dominance in relation to how we possess them.
And in doing so create belonging by both empathy and duty.