(sketch. want to show how marrying the state undermines all marrriage and family

(sketch. want to show how marrying the state undermines all marrriage and family options by providing a circumvention of the necessary compromise between the genders)

I have a pre-monogamous philosophy of the family, in that I have no problem paying for and raising another man’s children – none at all, nor another man paying for and raising mine. In fact, as a man, I see the polity as my tribe and all men share responsibility of defending, growing and improving the tribe, and that all the women and children in it belonging to our men, and we divide up the defense, financing, labor, and training of women and children in exchange for the voluntary care and sex of the woman. Of course, in the end, I give greater preference to my children, but this is my form of ‘communalism’. And it requires only that I create the sovereignty that prevents the taking of the proceeds of my production, and thereby prohibiting me from exchanging those proceeds for my caretaking.

The consequences of this reciprocal insecurity are greater defense of any marriage – the woman in the short term and the man in the longer term.

As long as I can do this all family choices are available. If not then men are just slaves to the state with no safety in old age from the security of family care. Men mature later, adapt less easily, accumulate cellular damage on behalf of women and children, and die earlier for it, in exchange for higher productivity during their shorter working lives.