I THINK THIS POST MIGHT BE IMPORTANT – TRY SHARING IT WITH WOMEN. I’ve been gett

I THINK THIS POST MIGHT BE IMPORTANT – TRY SHARING IT WITH WOMEN.

I’ve been getting a lot of private messages from women over this post – all with the central theme of ‘yeah… that’s about right’. I’d like to see how it does on the men’s movement sites (I always seek criticism).

It positions the problem women face, I think correctly. It positions the problem men face, I think correctly. And I think that the combination of birth control, employing too many women in the work force, un-mothering our children, industrializing child care and education, making marriage dissolution easier and more preferable, and undermining the institution of marriage itself has led to catastrophic late age misery, and harmful early age stresses.

Men must be men if we wish women to be women. Women must be women if we wish men to be men. the only people that benefit from gender neutrality are those who are outside the norms. The only appeal of serving those outside the norms is created by the feeling of fragility we have created by destroying the compromise between the sexes that we call relationships and marriage for the purpose of intergenerational persistence of our lines. By overcompensating for the bottom we have further empowered the top and destroyed the middle.

But women have a much harder problem: What Men Can They Trust? (Almost none)