(thoughts) A woman (or man) who is very ‘unpleasant’ to you is very difficult to

(thoughts)

A woman (or man) who is very ‘unpleasant’ to you is very difficult to ‘get over’. You don’t really realize that you’re effectively being terrorized, you just take life as what it is. Security outweighs the emotional hardship. The uncertain devil you don’t know is more fearful than the devil you know.

I understand that I am an unstoppable force AND an immovable object. But I’m also extremely tolerant, and flexible. And that it has hurt the women I have left. And that you can still love someone very much – but have different goals the conflcit between which cannot be resolved. (two of my most precious relationships). And sometimes you just cannot make the other person safe enough to be happy (another relationship). And sometimes you are not enough for the other person (another relationship) and she/he leaves you.

It is much easier to ‘get over’ those who you love and work well with, than those who you try to love and do not work well with, and those who you try desperately to work well with but terrorize you one way or another.

It is one thing to miss someone who you enjoyed, and try shake off the memories of someone who made you stressed often. Some people never recover.

The math is about right. It takes about a year per four years of relationship.