–Q: Curt: “What is the most painful truth you found so far?”–
Personally I hold women on a pedesetal and I like it that way. Women have been profoundly beneficial to me as an individual. My mother, grandmothers, wives, girlfriends have all radically improved my life – possibly because I’m enough on the spectrum to need their intuitions and insights and so I appreciate them.
So, the most painful thing I’ve learned is the unregulated nature of women. They cannot self regulate and so need external regulation which is one of the reasons they gravitate first to child-rearing if they have them, else they gravitate to conformity, and especially conformity to ‘ mean girls’. So without older women to constrain mean girls it spreads to other women and creates this self fulfilling disaster. I mean, men know these things about each other, but must self regulate because we’re physically dangerous, but women only feel them and so can’t regulate them as easily. And that is necessary because if they THOUGHT about children rather then felt them we’d have gone extinct a long time ago.
The other painful truth is a more general understanding that the human language facility and the grammar (protocol) of language gives us the impression we are more similar than we are. So just because someone can speak doesn’t mean they’re much smarter than domesticated pets so to speak, and that has been frightening for me.
Because that means almost two thirds of the planet isn’t really competent without really well formed and managed institutions. It means almost two thirds of the planet isn’t really competent without really well formed and managed institutions.
As for what others think, I dunno, from my perspective anything I’d need to say I’d need to say because something is wrong in the minds of mankind. So that means nearly everything I say is on the one hand explanatory but on the other hand possibly offensive.
So I mean, I offend myself with my findings as I said above, but I certainly understand how others find offense in one way or another.
Cheers
CD