Theme: Cooperation

So, what if you’re in a relationship for a couple of years and the other person doesn’t want to get married, because he or she says that “marriage isn’t for me”?

Now, myself, I would only say that because the relationship was convenient at present, but that over the long term I thought it wasn’t going to be a good idea, and that I wanted to keep my options open in case something better came along. I have been in relationships that were ‘good enough for now’ but not ‘good enough for life’. Many of us have been.

Usually when someone asks me a question like this I say “Well, the clock ticks on your life every moment. God only gives us one life. And relationships are an expensive investment of time in that one life. And every moment you invest in a ‘maybe not’ relationship is not being invested in a ‘we will try hard’ relationship. And over the long term, a relationship that lasts is the best investment you can make in time, just as a house is the best investment you can make with money.”

Wishing and hoping don’t make it so. Renting a house is money spent but not invested in the home you one day need not pay for. A ‘Maybe not” relationship is the same time spent but not invested in the long term relationship that sustains you in later years.

If a person ‘just isn’t that into you” then he or she just isn’t into you. It’s not complicated. People demonstrate their preferences. Their actions tell the truth that their words do not. Truth is there staring at you. You just have to come to terms with it.