RT @NoahRevoy: The issue isn’t merely that men and women haven’t been taught how to be husbands, fathers, wives, or mothers; it’s also that…
Source date (UTC): 2025-04-03 06:03:16 UTC
Original post: https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1907675245429113194
RT @NoahRevoy: If you’re an outlier and you want to make friends, you have three choices.
Choice number one: learn to be friends with norm…
Source date (UTC): 2025-04-01 22:55:04 UTC
Original post: https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1907205099455402132
(diary)
I grew up in a rural farming town in the sixties and early seventies. Fights were a way of life. And worse – it was before academic nerds were cool. My father was abusive and an alcoholic. And I regularly considered killing him. When I was 12 I broke a kid’s nose, and another kids ribs by kicking him when he was down. When I was 13 I nearly killed a kid by choking him out in a classroom, and then not letting go. He was blue. When I was sixteen I beat a kid year older than I with a shopping cart in a parking lot. And at that moment I realized that if I did not gain control of my temper I could go to jail and ruin my life. I switched that temper off that night and never let it out of the box again.
Yet even today, when one of the people I love, especially my close friends, is hurt emotionally or physically by anyone, my first instinct is to deeply hurt or kill that person. I don’t ever let it out of the box. I have total control. But that doesn’t mean the instinct isn’t there.
We have over-domesticated boys. Because we naturally do a good job of reigning each other in, while learning how to draw upon fortitude and violence when we, or those we love require it. Weak men are created by foolish women, yielding weak nations. That collapse from within.
Source date (UTC): 2025-03-27 21:57:21 UTC
Original post: https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1905378633692397568
RT @curtdoolittle: All neurology evolved from need for movement.
All behavior evolved from need for acquisition.
All ethics evolved from c…
Source date (UTC): 2025-03-26 02:23:03 UTC
Original post: https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1904720726609015293
THE SEX DIFFERENCES MIRROR (Part 1)
Given your research premise that sex-specific behavioral expressions often have approximate mirror forms in the other sex—such as female oppression narratives versus male conspiracy narratives—there are several bimodal behaviors worth investigating to expand your list.
These behaviors reflect how each sex navigates social dynamics, expresses agency, or responds to challenges, often in complementary or contrasting ways.
Below, I’ve outlined a range of potential bimodal expressions you could explore, each with examples of how they manifest differently yet mirror each other across sexes.
1. Dominance vs. Submission in Social Interactions
Male Dominance: Men often express dominance through direct means, such as physical posturing, overt competition, or asserting control in leadership roles.
Female Mirror (Submission/Indirect Dominance): Women may navigate social hierarchies more indirectly, using strategies like coalition-building or relational influence, which can mirror male dominance by achieving similar ends through subtler means.
Male Mirror (Submission): Men might show submission by deferring to authority or taking supportive roles in group settings, reflecting a counterpart to female indirect strategies.
This area highlights how dominance and submission can flip or adapt across sexes depending on context, offering a rich field for investigation.
2. Risk-Taking vs. Risk-Aversion
Male Risk-Taking: Men are frequently associated with physical or financial risks, such as engaging in extreme sports or speculative investments.
Female Mirror (Risk-Aversion or Relational Risk): Women may exhibit risk-aversion in these areas but take risks in social or relational domains, like initiating tough conversations or defying norms, mirroring male risk-taking in a different sphere.
Male Mirror (Risk-Aversion): Men might avoid risks in emotional contexts, such as shying away from vulnerability, which parallels female relational risk-taking.
Investigating risk behaviors could reveal how each sex balances boldness and caution in distinct yet mirrored ways.
3. Emotional Expression vs. Suppression
Female Emotional Expression: Women are often socialized to openly express emotions, especially empathy or sadness, as a form of connection.
Male Mirror (Suppression/Action-Based Expression): Men may suppress emotions to align with ideals of strength, expressing them instead through actions like anger or problem-solving, mirroring female openness in a socially acceptable form.
Female Mirror (Suppression): Women might suppress emotions in competitive or professional settings to appear strong, paralleling male suppression.
This bimodal pair could uncover how emotional regulation reflects societal expectations and mirrors across sexes.
4. Nurturing vs. Protective Behaviors
Female Nurturing: Women are traditionally linked to caregiving and emotional support, especially in family roles.
Male Mirror (Protective Nurturing): Men may express nurturing through protective actions, like ensuring physical or financial security, which mirrors female caregiving in a practical form.
Female Mirror (Protective): Women might take on protective roles, such as defending their social or familial groups, reflecting male protectiveness.
Parenting or caregiving contexts could provide concrete examples of these mirrored behaviors.
5. Competition vs. Cooperation
Male Competition: Men often engage in direct competition, such as in sports or career advancement, emphasizing individual achievement.
Female Mirror (Cooperation): Women may prioritize cooperation and group harmony, such as in team-building or community efforts, mirroring male competition by fostering collective success.
Male Mirror (Cooperation): Men might cooperate within competitive settings, like team sports or military units, paralleling female cooperation.
This contrast could show how competitive and cooperative instincts mirror each other in group dynamics.
6. Status-Seeking vs. Affiliation-Seeking
Male Status-Seeking: Men often pursue status through tangible achievements, such as wealth or recognition.
Female Mirror (Affiliation-Seeking): Women may seek status through relationships or social networks, mirroring male status-seeking in a relational form.
Male Mirror (Affiliation): Men might build affiliations through loyalty to groups or causes, reflecting female strategies.
Exploring status and affiliation could highlight how each sex achieves influence in mirrored ways.
7. Aggression vs. Passive Aggression
Male Aggression: Men are often associated with direct aggression, whether physical or verbal, as a display of power.
Female Mirror (Passive Aggression): Women may use indirect aggression, like gossip or social exclusion, mirroring male aggression in a less confrontational form.
Male Mirror (Passive Aggression): Men might employ passive-aggressive tactics, such as sarcasm or avoidance, in situations where direct aggression isn’t viable, paralleling female strategies.
This pair could reveal how aggression manifests differently yet mirrors across sexes.
8. Independence vs. Interdependence
Male Independence: Men are often encouraged to value autonomy and self-reliance.
Female Mirror (Interdependence): Women may emphasize communal support and interdependence, mirroring male independence by relying on collective strength.
Male Mirror (Interdependence): Men might show interdependence through loyalty to male groups or mentors, reflecting female interdependence.
This bimodal behavior could explore how autonomy and connection balance across sexes.
9. Problem-Solving vs. Emotional Support
Male Problem-Solving: Men often focus on offering practical solutions to challenges.
Female Mirror (Emotional Support): Women may provide empathy or emotional validation, mirroring male problem-solving by addressing the emotional side of issues.
Male Mirror (Emotional Support): Men might offer support through actions or presence rather than words, paralleling female emotional support.
This area could show how each sex approaches helping others in mirrored forms.
10. Leadership Styles
Male Leadership: Men often lead with assertiveness and a focus on tasks or outcomes.
Female Mirror (Collaborative Leadership): Women may lead through collaboration and relationship-building, mirroring male leadership in a relational style.
Male Mirror (Collaborative): Men might adopt collaborative approaches in creative or team-based settings, reflecting female leadership.
Leadership differences could provide insight into how authority is expressed and mirrored.
Source date (UTC): 2025-03-25 01:03:13 UTC
Original post: https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1904338245107974146
–“Do you know any good books about raising kids?”–
Not really my area. Though I do know the science. There are a few basic rules. Everything else is just a derivation. Mostly it’s just these below. All of which require patience and mindfulness and agency.
Provide Consistent Warmth and Responsiveness
Children’s developing brains respond best to stable, predictable affection and attention. Research shows that sensitive responsiveness to infants’ and toddlers’ needs strengthens secure attachment and fosters healthy emotional regulation.
(CD: Always respond positively to your children)
Encourage Exploration, Play, and Learning
Safe, unstructured play and novel learning experiences stimulate creativity, problem-solving skills, and cognitive growth. Ample cognitive neuroscience literature underscores the value of play in neural development and lifelong learning capacity.
(CD: provide stimulation and release energy by exposure to novel circumstances)
Maintain Routines and Predictable Structure
Predictable daily rhythms (e.g., meal times, sleep routines) help children develop self-discipline and emotional stability. Studies in developmental psychology link consistent routines to better self-regulation and reduced behavioral issues.
(CD: Habits create discipline)
Set Clear and Age-Appropriate Boundaries
Firm yet empathetic limits reduce a child’s confusion, reinforce trust, and promote self-control. Clear rules and expectations, accompanied by calm and consistent follow-through, support positive behavior.
(CD: Limit exposure to negative impulses until children develop the agency and mindfulness to ignore them)
Support Autonomy and Competence
Encouraging children to make choices aligned with their developmental stage cultivates independence and competence. Self-determination theory and related findings indicate that a sense of autonomy raises intrinsic motivation and self-efficacy.
(CD: Rather than just answer a question, ask how they think one should behave.)
Teach Adult Manners Young
CD: “Sir, maam”, looking in the eye, offering a handshake, stating your name. And asking permission to enter into adult conversation or to exit from adult interactions. Sitting and standing still and at attention while paying attention. These things are perhaps the most powerful traits children can learn and the earlier the better. I could do it by age five. I still can’t believe how important it was.
Discipline with Problem-Solving Rather Than Punishment
Constructive discipline methods that focus on understanding misbehavior, calmly applying consequences, and encouraging better choices enhance moral and emotional development. Evidence suggests that frequent harsh punishment correlates with lower self-esteem and increased aggression.
Always Tell the Truth
CD: Children internalize honesty through adult modeling. When parents consistently speak truthfully—even in uncomfortable circumstances—children learn that transparent communication fosters trust and reliability.
Developmental studies show that children who experience truthful, straightforward exchanges at home are more likely to develop secure attachments, emotional stability, and candor in their own relationships.
Always Keep Your Promises
CD: Failing to honor commitments erodes children’s trust in parental authority and consistency. By contrast, reliably following through on promises teaches children both integrity and accountability.
In social-cognitive research, stable adult figures who keep promises reinforce expectations about reciprocity and fairness, contributing to healthier peer relationships and moral reasoning.
Prevent “Divide and Conquer” Tactics Between Parents
CD: When parents present a united front, children gain predictable boundaries and see consistent role modeling of conflict resolution. If a child senses they can “pit” parents against each other, it undermines parental credibility and confuses boundary setting.
Evidence from family systems theory suggests that cooperative communication between caregivers reduces behavioral issues and supports emotional security in children.
Reply addressees: @partymember55
Source date (UTC): 2025-03-21 04:42:37 UTC
Original post: https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1902943908411367425
Replying to: https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1902898650444886140
Is it a goal? I would say it’s a utility. Because it closes the gap, yes. And because frankly, all other things considered, IQ is 10x more determinant than any other factor in human beings.
Source date (UTC): 2025-03-19 19:54:03 UTC
Original post: https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1902448504175522089
Reply addressees: @scottdomianus
Replying to: https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1902441661273108566
Must be an acquired taste. 😉
Unfortunately, trait ‘disagreeable’ personalities are the most likely to favor truth over face and invest in truth over face. Therefore, we are, at least, unless we try otherwise, ‘disagreeable’ to the majority. 😉
Source date (UTC): 2025-03-16 23:10:29 UTC
Original post: https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1901410772158423197
Reply addressees: @Johnny2Fingersz
Replying to: https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1901407714678628486
Girls: Faster Sexual Maturity, but shorter time preference and lower self regulatory agency. Boys, slower Sexual Maturity but longer time preference and higher self regulatory agency. The sexes divide the labor of TIME. This leads to girls empathizing in time vs boys…
Source date (UTC): 2025-03-15 17:03:00 UTC
Original post: https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1900955906269192234
Replying to: https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1900936072009245092
There is a near zero chance I err. Neuroscience and demonstrated behavior at all scales, I frame it as pejorative to draw attention to it.
So no. I do not err.
Source date (UTC): 2025-03-14 20:30:08 UTC
Original post: https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1900645643120767235
Reply addressees: @alan2102z @uberboyo
Replying to: https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1900639566408622485