Form: Short Note

Overstating Narcissism With Aspies etc.

There is a behavior demonstrated by nearly everyone on the spectrum wherein we are lacking understanding of or confidence in the frame and valence of others, so we tend to use our own frame (the self) when speaking, simply because it is the only frame we have understanding of or confidence in. And worse, this is partly because we often can lack the insecurities and fears neurotypicals do.
I’ve noticed this behavior forever. Most of us grow out of it. Or we learn enough to simply pose the question of others and then riff off that instead of using ourselves as the example.
I do view it as something to grow out of, but I don’t view it as narcissistic – just the only way of speaking with any confidence about matters of valence or frame.
In some ways autists are more sensitive to discordant behavior than neurotypicals, but the inability subjectively mind-read so-to-speak inhibits the behavioral self correction.
This is easily addressed by just noticing the autistic behavior and then listening, or explaining, and asking questions to help them verbalize. The problem is that this makes you a ‘friend’ who they will depend upon for human interaction. 😉