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http://shrink4men.wordpress.com/2009/01/30/10-signs-your-girlfriend-or-wife-is-an-emotional-bully/ABUSIVE WOMEN

I’ve repeatedly asked anyone who might have an opinion, why I must teach every single woman I have a relationship (a) not to hit me, and (b) nagging accomplishes the opposite of your intentions, and is in effect, ‘bullying’. Oh, and the last (c) while I will struggle to make your dreams come true, this must be at least somewhat reciprocated. I am not a life support system for a vagina. I am not a consumable resource. Believe it or not, my personal fulfillment is the purpose of my life. If we help each other do that, well, that’s wonderful. But you know, it’s gotta be reciprocal.

A man is not a ‘pussy’ because he won’t engage in physical or verbal abuse. You are ABUSIVE if you want him to.

Personally, I tend to just vote with my feet and ‘leave’.

“ABUSIVE” əˈbyo͞osiv,-zi adjective

extremely offensive and insulting. “abusive language”

synonyms: insulting, rude, vulgar, offensive, disparaging, belittling, derogatory, opprobrious, disrespectful, denigratory, uncomplimentary, censorious, pejorative, vituperative; defamatory, slanderous, libelous, scurrilous, blasphemous;

informal: bitchy;

ALCOHOLIC BEHAVIOR AS CAUSE OF ABUSE

1) Blame you for many things, and over-emphasize ‘fault’ or blame?

or

2) Display behavior patterns that emphasize arguing?

or

3) Have difficulty finding happiness or joy except when drinking?

or

4) DENIAL that they have a problem.

I suspect that because my father (and a lot of people in my family, really) are alcoholics, that I am somewhat attracted to this kind of person. Which is terrible.

What you do find, is that the alcoholic personality is more intense. I have plenty of theories about this. For my part, I find them interesting because their emotions are not difficult to discern, and ‘normal’ people are very hard for me to read unless they are either visibly happy or visibly unhappy.

ASPIES

Freaking difficult problem really. Frustrating.