–“Female attraction is not based on the criteria they list for partner selection. They want these things from men they’re already attracted to. Which means the attraction comes first. With this understanding, your prime objective should be to become attractive: Fitness, dress, mission in life, charming conversation, game”– Orion Taraban. Psy D.
These are all markers of fitness, just as the female form is a marker of fitness. Women are. Men do.
For my part, It would never have occurred to me to do these things to get women instead of doing them to generate opportunities for biz.
Your presentation gets you past first impressions, and your manners and words get you past the tests of potential value.
That said except for the year after my divorce when I wasn’t interested, I was always in an LTR.
Why? B/c I learned that women are mostly the same (really). That. you can love most of them if they’re feminine and not too crazy or dishonest. And it’s just a matter of whether they are attracted to you enough to adapt to you or not.
So it’s not as much about being picky with who you choose as it is about whether who you choose will adapt to the world you want to make together.
In other words try to invest in every relationship and see if you can make it work instead of waiting to figure out if it will work out without doing so.