Why is it that women end up issuing orders to men either explicitly, suggestively or seditiously. And why do men put up with it?
Men put up with it because they know there is no way to make women happy other than reading their minds and being a windsock to their impulses.
If you love a woman as you love your child you tolerate their behavior as you tolerate your child’s behavior and just as a mother tries to keep children within limits of self, mother, family harm, men do the same for women.
Providing this security for her just as she does for her children, whether she acknowledges it or not, or like children, resists it or not, is what provides her mindfulness in the same way she provides mindfulness to children. And it is this mindfulness that produces cooperation without conflict.