The specialty of women is their ability to adapt to whatever local condition is necessary, whether it be her children, the women who she supports and is supported by, the micro polity she is constrained within, the macro polity she is constrained within – the polity consisting of the constraints of men. Men cannot do this – we specialize for fit into groups, and we lose our ability to adapt fairly quickly, and as such are at long term disadvantages under change of groups. The problem of women’s extraordinary adaptability is the illusion of agreement and shared understanding that they demonstrate when ‘adapting’ to a male. For example, it’s very common for a man (me included) to love his exe’s but understand their incompatible. Or even to cast a woman as crazy but still love her. But women very often un-adapt to men (my ex wife for example), and produce anything from dislike, to antagonistic anger, to absolute hatred of him. What men forget is that this is part of the seductive capability of a woman. And that their loyalty is to their children, and rarely to their husbands, and in those cases where there is loyalty it certainly appears to be reducible to social and economic security. Whereas for most men, loyalty is the most important emotion we feel, and govern our behavior by. (For evolutionary reasons it was necessary for group survival.) So all but a very few women have far less agency than we do. And because of that we are easily convinced that they are more compatible and loyal than we are. They are very different, they are less loyal, they possess lower agency, but they adapt extraordinarily. For this reason a woman is very different about every seven years of her life. While a man is fairly fixed in temperament by his late teens, and once he matures in his early to mid twenties, he will simply have more knowledge and less energy as the years pass. It is extremely important that you share core values and roles, because over time, sexual attraction, the social status of marriage, the financial benefit of a shared household, the economic utility of incomes. But you must never forget that in general she has less agency, and more adaptability, and less loyalty than you do. Love women. Help them nest. Increase their social status with her friends at every opportunity. Listen. Demonstrate understanding. Do not argue or reason with women about what is good or preferable. The only answer is yes we can, yes I can, yes I can but not until next year, no I can’t, no I won’t. Help her be the best she can be. Never let them nag you ever. It is a cancer that women evolved for the raising and training of children which must never be directed to a male. Never let them take you for granted. Never give them control of your income, only some agreed upon portion of it. The first time you see her give you a ‘disgust response’ in her facial expressions (including eye rolls) sell all the assets you can, separate the assets you can’t sell, and leave or divorce her. Once a woman has given you the disgust response it is only a matter of her planning her exit.
The specialty of women is their ability to adapt to whatever local condition is necessary, whether it be her children, the women who she supports and is supported by, the micro polity she is constrained within, the macro polity she is constrained within – the polity consisting of the constraints of men. Men cannot do this – we specialize for fit into groups, and we lose our ability to adapt fairly quickly, and as such are at long term disadvantages under change of groups. The problem of women’s extraordinary adaptability is the illusion of agreement and shared understanding that they demonstrate when ‘adapting’ to a male. For example, it’s very common for a man (me included) to love his exe’s but understand their incompatible. Or even to cast a woman as crazy but still love her. But women very often un-adapt to men (my ex wife for example), and produce anything from dislike, to antagonistic anger, to absolute hatred of him. What men forget is that this is part of the seductive capability of a woman. And that their loyalty is to their children, and rarely to their husbands, and in those cases where there is loyalty it certainly appears to be reducible to social and economic security. Whereas for most men, loyalty is the most important emotion we feel, and govern our behavior by. (For evolutionary reasons it was necessary for group survival.) So all but a very few women have far less agency than we do. And because of that we are easily convinced that they are more compatible and loyal than we are. They are very different, they are less loyal, they possess lower agency, but they adapt extraordinarily. For this reason a woman is very different about every seven years of her life. While a man is fairly fixed in temperament by his late teens, and once he matures in his early to mid twenties, he will simply have more knowledge and less energy as the years pass. It is extremely important that you share core values and roles, because over time, sexual attraction, the social status of marriage, the financial benefit of a shared household, the economic utility of incomes. But you must never forget that in general she has less agency, and more adaptability, and less loyalty than you do. Love women. Help them nest. Increase their social status with her friends at every opportunity. Listen. Demonstrate understanding. Do not argue or reason with women about what is good or preferable. The only answer is yes we can, yes I can, yes I can but not until next year, no I can’t, no I won’t. Help her be the best she can be. Never let them nag you ever. It is a cancer that women evolved for the raising and training of children which must never be directed to a male. Never let them take you for granted. Never give them control of your income, only some agreed upon portion of it. The first time you see her give you a ‘disgust response’ in her facial expressions (including eye rolls) sell all the assets you can, separate the assets you can’t sell, and leave or divorce her. Once a woman has given you the disgust response it is only a matter of her planning her exit.
The locations and variation in male vs female is informative.
Source date (UTC): 2018-06-16 15:17:00 UTC
MALE AND FEMALE LOYALTY BIAS = OUR MORAL BIAS
—“Men marry and fall I love with a women with the belief that he will be the most important part of her life. This is the start of the destruction of so many marriages. Once the female has children her first loyalty becomes those children. The males loyalty still lay with the female. This creates a dangerous dynamic were the Male tries increasingly to become the females first priority to no avail.”— Eric Bumpus
I’m going to state it pejoratively: men mistakenly marry a wife under the presumption of the same priority he was treated by his mother. Women marry a husband with the presumption that her children will be given the same priority by the man as she gives them.
Both of these are false presumptions. Men are loyal to tribe, fellows, wife, and children. Women are loyal to children to the exclusion of all others.
This reflects genetic differences in morality. Males and conservatives tend to value all six Moral Dimensions relatively equally. Women and liberals tend to value Harm/Care almost exclusively.
The fallacy of equality is one of the greatest catastrophes since the invention of false gods, and marxist pseudoscience.
Source date (UTC): 2018-06-16 14:42:00 UTC
ADAPTABILITY VS LOYALTY: ECONOMICS OF RELATIONS
MALE…………………………..FEMALE
Greater Loyalty and ………Greater Adaptability and
Lower Adaptability ………..Lower Loyalty
Evolution varied the same theme.
We are compatible but we are neither identical nor equal.
Source date (UTC): 2018-06-16 13:53:00 UTC
(coffee shop. affluent town. three extremely precocious and verbal little blonde girls … maybe nine and under, a sister in her teens, and a mom. Unfortunately mom is talking stupid white people stuff with a friend. But the girls are creating a continuous fireworks of cuteness that just warms my heart. This is what we were like. I remember. When this was ‘normal’. )
Source date (UTC): 2018-06-16 13:38:00 UTC
THE ADAPTABILITY OF WOMEN AND A LESSON FOR MEN
The specialty of women is their ability to adapt to whatever local condition is necessary, whether it be her children, the women who she supports and is supported by, the micro polity she is constrained within, the macro polity she is constrained within – the polity consisting of the constraints of men. Men cannot do this – we specialize for fit into groups, and we lose our ability to adapt fairly quickly, and as such are at long term disadvantages under change of groups.
The problem of women’s extraordinary adaptability is the illusion of agreement and shared understanding that they demonstrate when ‘adapting’ to a male.
For example, it’s very common for a man (me included) to love his exe’s but understand their incompatible. Or even to cast a woman as crazy but still love her. But women very often un-adapt to men (my ex wife for example), and produce anything from dislike, to antagonistic anger, to absolute hatred of him.
What men forget is that this is part of the seductive capability of a woman. And that their loyalty is to their children, and rarely to their husbands, and in those cases where there is loyalty it certainly appears to be reducible to social and economic security. Whereas for most men, loyalty is the most important emotion we feel, and govern our behavior by. (For evolutionary reasons it was necessary for group survival.)
So all but a very few women have far less agency than we do. And because of that we are easily convinced that they are more compatible and loyal than we are. They are very different, they are less loyal, they possess lower agency, but they adapt extraordinarily. For this reason a woman is very different about every seven years of her life. While a man is fairly fixed in temperament by his late teens, and once he matures in his early to mid twenties, he will simply have more knowledge and less energy as the years pass.
It is extremely important that you share core values and roles, because over time, sexual attraction, the social status of marriage, the financial benefit of a shared household, the economic utility of incomes.
But you must never forget that in general she has less agency, and more adaptability, and less loyalty than you do.
Love women. Help them nest. Increase their social status with her friends at every opportunity. Listen. Demonstrate understanding. Do not argue or reason with women about what is good or preferable. The only answer is yes we can, yes I can, yes I can but not until next year, no I can’t, no I won’t. Help her be the best she can be.
Never let them nag you ever. It is a cancer that women evolved for the raising and training of children which must never be directed to a male. Never let them take you for granted. Never give them control of your income, only some agreed upon portion of it.
The first time you see her give you a ‘disgust response’ in her facial expressions (including eye rolls) sell all the assets you can, separate the assets you can’t sell, and leave or divorce her. Once a woman has given you the disgust response it is only a matter of her planning her exit.
Source date (UTC): 2018-06-16 13:15:00 UTC
https://amzn.to/2JIYVMUby Brandon Hayes
We instill the expectation of success without the subsequent struggle. When we do this early in children’s lives we set them up for failure; or more specifically with no tools to deal with failure (the inevitable kind). [a graduation speech entitled “You Are Not Special” sounds like the perfect speech and message] Here’s a great book on the crisis in the US:
Source date (UTC): 2018-06-16 11:40:00 UTC
https://amzn.to/2JIYVMUhttps://amzn.to/2JIYVMUby Brandon Hayes
We instill the expectation of success without the subsequent struggle. When we do this early in children’s lives we set them up for failure; or more specifically with no tools to deal with failure (the inevitable kind). [a graduation speech entitled “You Are Not Special” sounds like the perfect speech and message] Here’s a great book on the crisis in the US:
Source date (UTC): 2018-06-16 11:40:00 UTC