What is powerful about Stoicism is that forces us to maintain an INTERNAL locus of control along with high agency. At the same time, filtering out emotions by considering what we have rather than what we don’t and aligning with natural law allow us to think, calculate and act in the most efficient, effective manner possible. Conserving energy, creating the smallest emotional wake (for ourselves and others, thus mitigating or eliminating negative 2nd and 3rd order effects) and economizing motion as well as emotion.
What I love about this stuff, is that many of us, me including, stumbled on this, as the only thing that made sense in a Blue-Pilled world- and it is so comforting to say, “omg, this is actually a fully formed philosophy”. BUT we have the added advantage of neuroscience and 2.000 years of accumulated history to take it even further. Love it.
And with microeconomics, and nanoeconomics, and behavioral economics.
We have the Holy Grail.
We can now mathematically model Stoicism and we understand not just ourselves but everyone we interact with, through (as you are wont to say) incentives, we can look at max and min as well as elasticity / inelasticity through microeconomics and with all this granular data, we can look at nanoeconomisc (individual transaction) and then set all this against behavioral economisc / neuroeconomics and see that Stoicism is the way forward and we can improve it Stoicism 2.0 but added a few things and emphasizing a few others.
SELF AUTHORING – STOICISM IS THE ANVIL OF THE SELF (Stoicism in Scientific Terms)
Self Authoring and Journaling are the best training you can give yourself – other than basic physical fitness. I promise you.
Why? Because we evolved our minds to search for possibilities optimistically. So its very easy to say stupid things to yourself in the madness of the moment; and much harder to write down stupid things in organized prose; and much, much harder to read stupid things you’ve written in organized prose even a day later. So journaling rapidly teaches you the frailty of human contemplation and forecasting. It teaches you intellectual honesty. This is why, prior to the leftist destruction of education, we were all taught to keep a diary (journal) of our thoughts – once we have any to journal that is. 😉
Self authoring is simply setting goals for yourself for life, the year, and the day. And reviewing them. And revising them. That’s it.
If you add two checklists to your life goals (“seven habits”) so that you satisfy your full self’s needs. And a set of “virtues” (you must select from the virtues you want, not assume all virtues will help you), then this is effectively a project plan for your life, that provides you with mindfulness.
If you read Marcus Aurelius, do so with the intent of learning how to write to yourself. His book is the best living example of an exceptional man’s use of thinking about his thoughts of the day, by writing them down.
You must write honestly. Most of us will write very simple things. We are not Marcus Aurelius, Emperor. We are mere Warriors for the Working Day.
And you must not worry about the structure of your prose – punctuation or sentence structure or spelling even. That will come with practice.
All plans are created only to assist you in thinking and measuring yourself, as well as insulating you from the opinions and coercions of others.
However, the best strategic plan is opportunism in pursuit of your goals, and searching for and creating opportunities for the achievement of your goals. And so any plan is merely the default opportunity you plan to seize unless a better opportunity for a different plan surprises you.
I work (like Napoleon) by doing an exhaustive amount of research then making a dozen or two plans, and then doing whatever will advance the majority of those plans, so that by accident of iteration, one of the twelve plans (or more) will work out. This is too computationally difficult for many people so keeping it simple is better for them. You have to discover your own equilibrium plan, revision, and opportunity – by trial and error.
Now, I find that fb and my web site, and emails to myself work as a good journal for me and I just mark private stuff private (for me only). The reason is that when I write in public I am even more honest with myself than when I write to myself in private. This is a trick of personal psychology. All of us are different. I have a lot of confidence and so I don’t mind being public. Others won’t be.
And the only way to ensure that you are not talking madness to yourself (letting the elephant run away with the rider), is to write it down and review your progress.
You wouldn’t believe how much your mind will lie to you on behalf of the Elephant if you do not keep a journal on the directions of the Rider.
But the fact remains – you are able to master yourself (agency) by practice if you are willing to spend 90 days practicing.
After a year you will find you are dependent upon using the writing to feel you are thinking clearly and organizing your thoughts.
When you have an idea and immediately feel the draw to ‘write it out’ and organize your thoughts then you are engaged in Self Authoring, and the training is complete. It’s only application after that.
If you do this you will need no self-help books, no great philosophies, no religions, no teachers, other than to read a book that expands your knowledge now and then.
There is no secret to the Ritual of Self Authoring, and questioning information as to whether it improves your goals or not.
No one else’s opinions or attitudes matter. Events do not matter. All that matters is your gradual progress to your virtues and goals.
-THE VIRTUES-
EXCELLENCE Excellence is striving is to be better than the day before, never giving in to the voice that says, âThatâs good enough.â Instead, listen for the voice that says, âNow thatâs awesome!â
ASSERTIVENESS Unapologetically go after what you want in life. Be assertive and let the world feel the full weight of who you are. Live with passion ⦠without being a jackass.
COMPETITIVENESS ( … )
COMMITMENT Do what you say youâre going to do without excuse. Suit up, show up everyday, and give your best effort.
TENACITY Tenacity is the ability to stick it out and never give up, to keep going when things are tough and there is no end in sight. This is the only way to live a life of contentedness because regret only happens when we give up.
FITNESS ( … )
VIOLENCE ( … )
COURAGE Courage isnât the absence of fear, itâs the strength to move forward in the face of fear. Courage is perhaps the most vital virtue to develop. When we feel the fear and do it anyway we develop courage.
MINDFULNESS ( … )
LOYALTY Staying true to yourself and standing by someone elseâs side when they face adversity is mastery of loyalty. Never giving up on someone, no matter how hard it gets, for as long as it takes: that is the true measure of any great relationship.
RESPECT The respect you show to others is a reflection of your self respect. For this reason, respect is something you do for yourself. That doesnât mean you have to agree with others, but you simply value yourself enough to give others respect.
HONOR Honor is respecting those over you and acting in a way that is deserving of respect from those under you. Honor is the reputation and alliance that you earn from those you serve and those who serve you.
AUTHENTICY Being true to yourself isnât easy. Pulling off the mask that hides your flaws and living in the fullness of who your are creates a contagion that gives others the courage to do the same.
COOPERATION The most important virtue for success is the ability to cooperate. If you canât play well with others youâre going to get kicked out of the sandbox. Learn to cooperate and youâll be successful.
TEAMWORK ( … )
HONESTY You are only as good as your word. If your word isnât worth anything, then you have lost a piece of your soul. Being honest is difficult, but it is the bedrock of character. A house is only as strong as its foundation.
INTEGRITY Integrity is the solidarity of our virtues; it is the quality by which we live out our values and prioritize our principles. It is the culmination of character in action. To act with integrity is to be a good man.
HUMILITY Humility is the leadership quality of taking the brunt of the blame when things go south and giving away the majority of the credit when things go well. The leader who practices humility will never ask anyone to do what they themselves cannot do. Humility is leading from a position of service.
PRUDENCE Prudence is the capacity to face reality squarely in the eye, without allowing emotion or ego to get in the way, and do what is best for the team.
TACT Be honest, but be tactful. Remember there is another human being on the other end of your words. Strive to live by the golden rule, âDo unto others as you would have them do unto you.â
EMPATHY Empathy is the ability to put aside your ego, step into someone elseâs shoes and experience their emotions. When we do this, we create connection. The number one emotional need we all have is for connection.
COMPASSION The ability to step outside of yourself and perform an act of selflessness: this is the foundation of compassion. To be compassionate is to value others above yourself for the sole purpose of contributing to the greater good.
GRACE Grace is giving something to someone who hasnât earned it, doesnât deserve it and yet we give it anyway. Simply put, grace is giving someone dessert even though they didnât eat their vegetables.
FORGIVENESS When we forgive we are giving up our right to collect on a debt. âAn eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind,â said Gandhi. When I no longer have the need for revenge, then I have forgiven.
KINDNESS There is strength in kindness. A simple smile, a kind word or even an arm on a shoulder can change someoneâs life for the better and thereby change the world ⦠Kindness is your super-power.
GENEROSITY Maya Angelou said, âPeople wonât remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.â Be generous with how you treat everyone ⦠they will feel amazing and so will you.
GRATITUDE Did you know you canât be resentful and grateful at the same time? Try it. To be truly grateful is to consider all the gifts you have been given and to understand that no matter what, there is always something for which to be grateful.
PATIENCE There is no truer act of love than patience ⦠just ask anyone who has raised a two-year-old.
ADAPTABILITY âImprovise, Adapt and Overcomeâ is the mantra of the United States Marine Corps. Adaptability is the ability to be flexible to change and gain the advantage in any situation. Things that arenât adaptable break ⦠things that arenât adaptable donât survive.
CONTENTMENT Dissatisfaction is the misconception that you need more than what you already have. Contentment is a mind-set: itâs choosing not to look at lack but see the abundance that already exists.
—âEducation-associated genesâ? Iâm a bit skeptical that such are really verified.”—Rich Berger
It’s just a politically correct term for the 1000+ IQ correlated genes that have been discovered as yet. Most public estimations of IQ are done by degrees (a very bad proxy by the way), and by framing education related genes rather than IQ they circumvent criticism by the anti-IQ-measurement groups.
photos_and_videos/your_posts/37010185_10156491961647264_2361468930255486976_o_10156491961637264.jpg SELF AUTHORING – STOICISM IS THE ANVIL OF THE SELF
(Stoicism in Scientific Terms)
Self Authoring and Journaling are the best training you can give yourself – other than basic physical fitness. I promise you.
Why? Because we evolved our minds to search for possibilities optimistically. So its very easy to say stupid things to yourself in the madness of the moment; and much harder to write down stupid things in organized prose; and much, much harder to read stupid things you’ve written in organized prose even a day later. So journaling rapidly teaches you the frailty of human contemplation and forecasting. It teaches you intellectual honesty. This is why, prior to the leftist destruction of education, we were all taught to keep a diary (journal) of our thoughts – once we have any to journal that is. 😉
Self authoring is simply setting goals for yourself for life, the year, and the day. And reviewing them. And revising them. That’s it.
If you add two checklists to your life goals (“seven habits”) so that you satisfy your full self’s needs. And a set of “virtues” (you must select from the virtues you want, not assume all virtues will help you), then this is effectively a project plan for your life, that provides you with mindfulness.
If you read Marcus Aurelius, do so with the intent of learning how to write to yourself. His book is the best living example of an exceptional man’s use of thinking about his thoughts of the day, by writing them down.
You must write honestly. Most of us will write very simple things. We are not Marcus Aurelius, Emperor. We are mere Warriors for the Working Day.
And you must not worry about the structure of your prose – punctuation or sentence structure or spelling even. That will come with practice.
All plans are created only to assist you in thinking and measuring yourself, as well as insulating you from the opinions and coercions of others.
However, the best strategic plan is opportunism in pursuit of your goals, and searching for and creating opportunities for the achievement of your goals. And so any plan is merely the default opportunity you plan to seize unless a better opportunity for a different plan surprises you.
I work (like Napoleon) by doing an exhaustive amount of research then making a dozen or two plans, and then doing whatever will advance the majority of those plans, so that by accident of iteration, one of the twelve plans (or more) will work out. This is too computationally difficult for many people so keeping it simple is better for them. You have to discover your own equilibrium plan, revision, and opportunity – by trial and error.
Now, I find that fb and my web site, and emails to myself work as a good journal for me and I just mark private stuff private (for me only). The reason is that when I write in public I am even more honest with myself than when I write to myself in private. This is a trick of personal psychology. All of us are different. I have a lot of confidence and so I don’t mind being public. Others won’t be.
And the only way to ensure that you are not talking madness to yourself (letting the elephant run away with the rider), is to write it down and review your progress.
You wouldn’t believe how much your mind will lie to you on behalf of the Elephant if you do not keep a journal on the directions of the Rider.
But the fact remains – you are able to master yourself (agency) by practice if you are willing to spend 90 days practicing.
After a year you will find you are dependent upon using the writing to feel you are thinking clearly and organizing your thoughts.
When you have an idea and immediately feel the draw to ‘write it out’ and organize your thoughts then you are engaged in Self Authoring, and the training is complete. It’s only application after that.
If you do this you will need no self-help books, no great philosophies, no religions, no teachers, other than to read a book that expands your knowledge now and then.
There is no secret to the Ritual of Self Authoring, and questioning information as to whether it improves your goals or not.
No one else’s opinions or attitudes matter. Events do not matter. All that matters is your gradual progress to your virtues and goals.
-THE VIRTUES-
EXCELLENCE
Excellence is striving is to be better than the day before, never giving in to the voice that says, “That’s good enough.” Instead, listen for the voice that says, “Now that’s awesome!”
ASSERTIVENESS
Unapologetically go after what you want in life. Be assertive and let the world feel the full weight of who you are. Live with passion … without being a jackass.
COMPETITIVENESS
( … )
COMMITMENT
Do what you say you’re going to do without excuse. Suit up, show up everyday, and give your best effort.
TENACITY
Tenacity is the ability to stick it out and never give up, to keep going when things are tough and there is no end in sight. This is the only way to live a life of contentedness because regret only happens when we give up.
FITNESS
( … )
VIOLENCE
( … )
COURAGE
Courage isn’t the absence of fear, it’s the strength to move forward in the face of fear. Courage is perhaps the most vital virtue to develop. When we feel the fear and do it anyway we develop courage.
MINDFULNESS
( … )
LOYALTY
Staying true to yourself and standing by someone else’s side when they face adversity is mastery of loyalty. Never giving up on someone, no matter how hard it gets, for as long as it takes: that is the true measure of any great relationship.
RESPECT
The respect you show to others is a reflection of your self respect. For this reason, respect is something you do for yourself. That doesn’t mean you have to agree with others, but you simply value yourself enough to give others respect.
HONOR
Honor is respecting those over you and acting in a way that is deserving of respect from those under you. Honor is the reputation and alliance that you earn from those you serve and those who serve you.
AUTHENTICY
Being true to yourself isn’t easy. Pulling off the mask that hides your flaws and living in the fullness of who your are creates a contagion that gives others the courage to do the same.
COOPERATION
The most important virtue for success is the ability to cooperate. If you can’t play well with others you’re going to get kicked out of the sandbox. Learn to cooperate and you’ll be successful.
TEAMWORK
( … )
HONESTY
You are only as good as your word. If your word isn’t worth anything, then you have lost a piece of your soul. Being honest is difficult, but it is the bedrock of character. A house is only as strong as its foundation.
INTEGRITY
Integrity is the solidarity of our virtues; it is the quality by which we live out our values and prioritize our principles. It is the culmination of character in action. To act with integrity is to be a good man.
HUMILITY
Humility is the leadership quality of taking the brunt of the blame when things go south and giving away the majority of the credit when things go well. The leader who practices humility will never ask anyone to do what they themselves cannot do. Humility is leading from a position of service.
PRUDENCE
Prudence is the capacity to face reality squarely in the eye, without allowing emotion or ego to get in the way, and do what is best for the team.
TACT
Be honest, but be tactful. Remember there is another human being on the other end of your words. Strive to live by the golden rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
EMPATHY
Empathy is the ability to put aside your ego, step into someone else’s shoes and experience their emotions. When we do this, we create connection. The number one emotional need we all have is for connection.
COMPASSION
The ability to step outside of yourself and perform an act of selflessness: this is the foundation of compassion. To be compassionate is to value others above yourself for the sole purpose of contributing to the greater good.
GRACE
Grace is giving something to someone who hasn’t earned it, doesn’t deserve it and yet we give it anyway. Simply put, grace is giving someone dessert even though they didn’t eat their vegetables.
FORGIVENESS
When we forgive we are giving up our right to collect on a debt. “An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind,” said Gandhi. When I no longer have the need for revenge, then I have forgiven.
KINDNESS
There is strength in kindness. A simple smile, a kind word or even an arm on a shoulder can change someone’s life for the better and thereby change the world … Kindness is your super-power.
GENEROSITY
Maya Angelou said, “People won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.” Be generous with how you treat everyone … they will feel amazing and so will you.
GRATITUDE
Did you know you can’t be resentful and grateful at the same time? Try it. To be truly grateful is to consider all the gifts you have been given and to understand that no matter what, there is always something for which to be grateful.
PATIENCE
There is no truer act of love than patience … just ask anyone who has raised a two-year-old.
ADAPTABILITY
“Improvise, Adapt and Overcome” is the mantra of the United States Marine Corps. Adaptability is the ability to be flexible to change and gain the advantage in any situation. Things that aren’t adaptable break … things that aren’t adaptable don’t survive.
CONTENTMENT
Dissatisfaction is the misconception that you need more than what you already have. Contentment is a mind-set: it’s choosing not to look at lack but see the abundance that already exists.James Lyons Sr.Damn……does that mean I didn’t invent neuro(plus)plastictesis…I just tried to rebrand a known I known process?
Gosh darn it, the more ya know.
Good thing I didn’t try and claim it someone would sue me.Jul 12, 2018 3:07pmCurt Doolittleits called ‘stoicism’. Really. The rest of stoicism is merely exploration of the individual virtues – selecting from the chinese menu and making use of them to create your dish of life.Jul 12, 2018 3:13pmPaul FranklinDon’t need nothing else, when you have this. I mean, don’t need no other religion, no ‘God’ required.
No other God than the one before we are completely honest? And when that is we ourselves?Jul 12, 2018 4:22pmVictor AckermanFantastic post. A very importantly timed one for me. Thank you for your wisdom.Jul 12, 2018 8:08pmCurt DoolittleIll work on refining it a bit. Not quite there.Jul 12, 2018 8:12pmJames SantagataWhat I love about this stuff, is that many of us, me including, stumbled on this,as the only thing that made sense in a Blue-Pilled world and it is so comforting to say, “omg, this is actually a fully formed philosophy” BUT we have the added advantage of neuroscience and 2.000 years of accumulated history to take it even further. Love it.Jul 12, 2018 9:17pmJames SantagataAnd microeconomics + nanoeconomics + behavioral economics. Omg, I’m gonna orgasm. We have the Holy Grail.Jul 12, 2018 9:20pmCurt DoolittleJames Santagata expand on that so I can post it?Jul 12, 2018 9:21pmJames SantagataCurt Doolittle We can now mathematically model Stoicism and we understand not just ourselves but everyone we interact with, through (as you are wont to say) incentives, we can look at max and min as well as elasticity / inelasticity through microeconomics and with all this granular data, we can look at nanoeconomisc (individual transaction) and then set all this against behavioral economisc / neuroeconomics and see that Stoicism is the way forward and we can improve it Stoicism 2.0 but added a few things and emphasizing a few others.Jul 12, 2018 9:25pmCurt Doolittlenow, give me a replacement for “what I love about this stuff”
what ‘stuff’Jul 12, 2018 9:42pmJames SantagataWhat is powerful about Stoicism is that forces us to maintain an INTERNAL locus of control along with high agency. At the same time, filtering out emotions by considering what we have rather than what we don’t and aligning with natural law allow us to think, calculate and act in the most efficient, effective manner possible. Conserving energy, creating the smallest emotional wake (for ourselves and others, thus mitigating or eliminating negative 2nd and 3rd order effects) and economizing motion as well as emotion (Jim Beam talking).Jul 12, 2018 9:46pmJames Lyons Sr.Bourbon! I knew your fire was fueled proper like!
Basil Hayden is my favorite libationJul 12, 2018 9:52pmJohn MarkCurt do your dozen or two plans have significant overlap? (Are some of them variations of the same basic outline with same basic goal?)Jul 13, 2018 12:27amJohn MarkBTW powerful post & I love the list of virtues. It seems a person could choose to pursue virtues that shore up weaknesses e.g. in Big5 personality traits (if naturally high agreeableness, pursue assertiveness).Jul 13, 2018 12:27amCurt Doolittleyes ;)Jul 13, 2018 1:56amGreg HamiltonThe Tactical Virtues: Strength, Courage, Mastery, and Honor.
Well worth the read
https://amzn.to/2ukiX6xJul 13, 2018 2:05amTobias DarbyJordan Peterson, Eat your heart out.. this is a proper guide..Jul 13, 2018 2:42amTobias DarbyI like tactical violenceJul 13, 2018 2:46amTobias DarbyHi Curt Doolittle.
I had a shot at violence..
VIOLENCE:
Be polite. Keep your word. Threats without action are lies. Avoid ultimatums unless you are prepared to follow up on your end of the bargain.. Protect you and yours. Self Defence is a responsibility, not merely a right. Violence will solve most problems. Order and Justice are simply synonyms for violence.Jul 13, 2018 4:06amCurt Doolittleexcellent!!!Jul 13, 2018 7:57amCurt Doolittlewhat’s that from?Jul 13, 2018 7:57amJames SantagataCurt Doolittle Great paper — “RETHINKING OUR COMPOSING, RECOMPOSING OUR THINKING: COMPOSITION STUDIES AND COGNITIVE PSYCHOLOGY CONSIDER WRITING” from page 4 (the abstract down) https://libres.uncg.edu/ir/wcu/f/FergusonOles2011.pdfJul 13, 2018 8:04amPatrick HabetsWhoso would be a man must be a nonconformist. Ralph Waldo Emerson
The warrior is a nonconformist. He refuses to lower his standards or his code of ethics to please others. The fact that other men may consider this action or that action to be acceptable, means nothing to the warrior. He is not interested in conforming to the opinions of others. He is only interested in living up to his own standards which he sets for himself.
If the warrior was the type of man that simply went along with the crowd, he would not be so rare. Anyone can bend their standards to conform to the standards of the day, but it takes a real man to stand firm concerning his ethics when all other men are trying to convince him to conform to their way of thinking. The warrior has to not only have confidence in his own code of honor, but also has to have confidence in his ability to walk alone against the tide of public opinion.
This attitude of independence is what makes the warrior a rare man of honor. He does what he knows in his heart to be right, independent of what anyone else says or does. He refuses to play the game of situational ethics. His ethics are set in stone.
Others may not be able to decipher his code or understand his way of thinking, but they know that the warrior is a man of principle. He is not a man that can be manipulated by popular opinion or moral fads. The true warrior is a true nonconformist and always has been. Bohdi Sanders ~ author of the TOP 15 Bestseller, BUSHIDO: The Way of the Warrior, available on Amazon at: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B075TH53C9. Signed copies are available from: https://thewisdomwarrior.com.Jul 13, 2018 9:38amBryan Nova BreyMaddy Smith to improve agency.Jul 13, 2018 12:58pmGreg HamiltonI prefer strategic violence. But violence is a tool.Jul 13, 2018 1:08pmJorn BirxGood.Jul 14, 2018 8:03amNick ZitoAccountability !?!Jul 20, 2018 3:58amPatrick HabetsWhy do they hate the samurai?Jul 20, 2018 3:59amSELF AUTHORING – STOICISM IS THE ANVIL OF THE SELF
(Stoicism in Scientific Terms)
Self Authoring and Journaling are the best training you can give yourself – other than basic physical fitness. I promise you.
Why? Because we evolved our minds to search for possibilities optimistically. So its very easy to say stupid things to yourself in the madness of the moment; and much harder to write down stupid things in organized prose; and much, much harder to read stupid things you’ve written in organized prose even a day later. So journaling rapidly teaches you the frailty of human contemplation and forecasting. It teaches you intellectual honesty. This is why, prior to the leftist destruction of education, we were all taught to keep a diary (journal) of our thoughts – once we have any to journal that is. 😉
Self authoring is simply setting goals for yourself for life, the year, and the day. And reviewing them. And revising them. That’s it.
If you add two checklists to your life goals (“seven habits”) so that you satisfy your full self’s needs. And a set of “virtues” (you must select from the virtues you want, not assume all virtues will help you), then this is effectively a project plan for your life, that provides you with mindfulness.
If you read Marcus Aurelius, do so with the intent of learning how to write to yourself. His book is the best living example of an exceptional man’s use of thinking about his thoughts of the day, by writing them down.
You must write honestly. Most of us will write very simple things. We are not Marcus Aurelius, Emperor. We are mere Warriors for the Working Day.
And you must not worry about the structure of your prose – punctuation or sentence structure or spelling even. That will come with practice.
All plans are created only to assist you in thinking and measuring yourself, as well as insulating you from the opinions and coercions of others.
However, the best strategic plan is opportunism in pursuit of your goals, and searching for and creating opportunities for the achievement of your goals. And so any plan is merely the default opportunity you plan to seize unless a better opportunity for a different plan surprises you.
I work (like Napoleon) by doing an exhaustive amount of research then making a dozen or two plans, and then doing whatever will advance the majority of those plans, so that by accident of iteration, one of the twelve plans (or more) will work out. This is too computationally difficult for many people so keeping it simple is better for them. You have to discover your own equilibrium plan, revision, and opportunity – by trial and error.
Now, I find that fb and my web site, and emails to myself work as a good journal for me and I just mark private stuff private (for me only). The reason is that when I write in public I am even more honest with myself than when I write to myself in private. This is a trick of personal psychology. All of us are different. I have a lot of confidence and so I don’t mind being public. Others won’t be.
And the only way to ensure that you are not talking madness to yourself (letting the elephant run away with the rider), is to write it down and review your progress.
You wouldn’t believe how much your mind will lie to you on behalf of the Elephant if you do not keep a journal on the directions of the Rider.
But the fact remains – you are able to master yourself (agency) by practice if you are willing to spend 90 days practicing.
After a year you will find you are dependent upon using the writing to feel you are thinking clearly and organizing your thoughts.
When you have an idea and immediately feel the draw to ‘write it out’ and organize your thoughts then you are engaged in Self Authoring, and the training is complete. It’s only application after that.
If you do this you will need no self-help books, no great philosophies, no religions, no teachers, other than to read a book that expands your knowledge now and then.
There is no secret to the Ritual of Self Authoring, and questioning information as to whether it improves your goals or not.
No one else’s opinions or attitudes matter. Events do not matter. All that matters is your gradual progress to your virtues and goals.
-THE VIRTUES-
EXCELLENCE
Excellence is striving is to be better than the day before, never giving in to the voice that says, “That’s good enough.” Instead, listen for the voice that says, “Now that’s awesome!”
ASSERTIVENESS
Unapologetically go after what you want in life. Be assertive and let the world feel the full weight of who you are. Live with passion … without being a jackass.
COMPETITIVENESS
( … )
COMMITMENT
Do what you say you’re going to do without excuse. Suit up, show up everyday, and give your best effort.
TENACITY
Tenacity is the ability to stick it out and never give up, to keep going when things are tough and there is no end in sight. This is the only way to live a life of contentedness because regret only happens when we give up.
FITNESS
( … )
VIOLENCE
( … )
COURAGE
Courage isn’t the absence of fear, it’s the strength to move forward in the face of fear. Courage is perhaps the most vital virtue to develop. When we feel the fear and do it anyway we develop courage.
MINDFULNESS
( … )
LOYALTY
Staying true to yourself and standing by someone else’s side when they face adversity is mastery of loyalty. Never giving up on someone, no matter how hard it gets, for as long as it takes: that is the true measure of any great relationship.
RESPECT
The respect you show to others is a reflection of your self respect. For this reason, respect is something you do for yourself. That doesn’t mean you have to agree with others, but you simply value yourself enough to give others respect.
HONOR
Honor is respecting those over you and acting in a way that is deserving of respect from those under you. Honor is the reputation and alliance that you earn from those you serve and those who serve you.
AUTHENTICY
Being true to yourself isn’t easy. Pulling off the mask that hides your flaws and living in the fullness of who your are creates a contagion that gives others the courage to do the same.
COOPERATION
The most important virtue for success is the ability to cooperate. If you can’t play well with others you’re going to get kicked out of the sandbox. Learn to cooperate and you’ll be successful.
TEAMWORK
( … )
HONESTY
You are only as good as your word. If your word isn’t worth anything, then you have lost a piece of your soul. Being honest is difficult, but it is the bedrock of character. A house is only as strong as its foundation.
INTEGRITY
Integrity is the solidarity of our virtues; it is the quality by which we live out our values and prioritize our principles. It is the culmination of character in action. To act with integrity is to be a good man.
HUMILITY
Humility is the leadership quality of taking the brunt of the blame when things go south and giving away the majority of the credit when things go well. The leader who practices humility will never ask anyone to do what they themselves cannot do. Humility is leading from a position of service.
PRUDENCE
Prudence is the capacity to face reality squarely in the eye, without allowing emotion or ego to get in the way, and do what is best for the team.
TACT
Be honest, but be tactful. Remember there is another human being on the other end of your words. Strive to live by the golden rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
EMPATHY
Empathy is the ability to put aside your ego, step into someone else’s shoes and experience their emotions. When we do this, we create connection. The number one emotional need we all have is for connection.
COMPASSION
The ability to step outside of yourself and perform an act of selflessness: this is the foundation of compassion. To be compassionate is to value others above yourself for the sole purpose of contributing to the greater good.
GRACE
Grace is giving something to someone who hasn’t earned it, doesn’t deserve it and yet we give it anyway. Simply put, grace is giving someone dessert even though they didn’t eat their vegetables.
FORGIVENESS
When we forgive we are giving up our right to collect on a debt. “An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind,” said Gandhi. When I no longer have the need for revenge, then I have forgiven.
KINDNESS
There is strength in kindness. A simple smile, a kind word or even an arm on a shoulder can change someone’s life for the better and thereby change the world … Kindness is your super-power.
GENEROSITY
Maya Angelou said, “People won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.” Be generous with how you treat everyone … they will feel amazing and so will you.
GRATITUDE
Did you know you can’t be resentful and grateful at the same time? Try it. To be truly grateful is to consider all the gifts you have been given and to understand that no matter what, there is always something for which to be grateful.
PATIENCE
There is no truer act of love than patience … just ask anyone who has raised a two-year-old.
ADAPTABILITY
“Improvise, Adapt and Overcome” is the mantra of the United States Marine Corps. Adaptability is the ability to be flexible to change and gain the advantage in any situation. Things that aren’t adaptable break … things that aren’t adaptable don’t survive.
CONTENTMENT
Dissatisfaction is the misconception that you need more than what you already have. Contentment is a mind-set: it’s choosing not to look at lack but see the abundance that already exists.
photos_and_videos/TimelinePhotos_43196237263/37010185_10156491961647264_2361468930255486976_o_10156491961637264.jpg SELF AUTHORING – STOICISM IS THE ANVIL OF THE SELF
(Stoicism in Scientific Terms)
Self Authoring and Journaling are the best training you can give yourself – other than basic physical fitness. I promise you.
Why? Because we evolved our minds to search for possibilities optimistically. So its very easy to say stupid things to yourself in the madness of the moment; and much harder to write down stupid things in organized prose; and much, much harder to read stupid things you’ve written in organized prose even a day later. So journaling rapidly teaches you the frailty of human contemplation and forecasting. It teaches you intellectual honesty. This is why, prior to the leftist destruction of education, we were all taught to keep a diary (journal) of our thoughts – once we have any to journal that is. 😉
Self authoring is simply setting goals for yourself for life, the year, and the day. And reviewing them. And revising them. That’s it.
If you add two checklists to your life goals (“seven habits”) so that you satisfy your full self’s needs. And a set of “virtues” (you must select from the virtues you want, not assume all virtues will help you), then this is effectively a project plan for your life, that provides you with mindfulness.
If you read Marcus Aurelius, do so with the intent of learning how to write to yourself. His book is the best living example of an exceptional man’s use of thinking about his thoughts of the day, by writing them down.
You must write honestly. Most of us will write very simple things. We are not Marcus Aurelius, Emperor. We are mere Warriors for the Working Day.
And you must not worry about the structure of your prose – punctuation or sentence structure or spelling even. That will come with practice.
All plans are created only to assist you in thinking and measuring yourself, as well as insulating you from the opinions and coercions of others.
However, the best strategic plan is opportunism in pursuit of your goals, and searching for and creating opportunities for the achievement of your goals. And so any plan is merely the default opportunity you plan to seize unless a better opportunity for a different plan surprises you.
I work (like Napoleon) by doing an exhaustive amount of research then making a dozen or two plans, and then doing whatever will advance the majority of those plans, so that by accident of iteration, one of the twelve plans (or more) will work out. This is too computationally difficult for many people so keeping it simple is better for them. You have to discover your own equilibrium plan, revision, and opportunity – by trial and error.
Now, I find that fb and my web site, and emails to myself work as a good journal for me and I just mark private stuff private (for me only). The reason is that when I write in public I am even more honest with myself than when I write to myself in private. This is a trick of personal psychology. All of us are different. I have a lot of confidence and so I don’t mind being public. Others won’t be.
And the only way to ensure that you are not talking madness to yourself (letting the elephant run away with the rider), is to write it down and review your progress.
You wouldn’t believe how much your mind will lie to you on behalf of the Elephant if you do not keep a journal on the directions of the Rider.
But the fact remains – you are able to master yourself (agency) by practice if you are willing to spend 90 days practicing.
After a year you will find you are dependent upon using the writing to feel you are thinking clearly and organizing your thoughts.
When you have an idea and immediately feel the draw to ‘write it out’ and organize your thoughts then you are engaged in Self Authoring, and the training is complete. It’s only application after that.
If you do this you will need no self-help books, no great philosophies, no religions, no teachers, other than to read a book that expands your knowledge now and then.
There is no secret to the Ritual of Self Authoring, and questioning information as to whether it improves your goals or not.
No one else’s opinions or attitudes matter. Events do not matter. All that matters is your gradual progress to your virtues and goals.
-THE VIRTUES-
EXCELLENCE
Excellence is striving is to be better than the day before, never giving in to the voice that says, “That’s good enough.” Instead, listen for the voice that says, “Now that’s awesome!”
ASSERTIVENESS
Unapologetically go after what you want in life. Be assertive and let the world feel the full weight of who you are. Live with passion … without being a jackass.
COMPETITIVENESS
( … )
COMMITMENT
Do what you say you’re going to do without excuse. Suit up, show up everyday, and give your best effort.
TENACITY
Tenacity is the ability to stick it out and never give up, to keep going when things are tough and there is no end in sight. This is the only way to live a life of contentedness because regret only happens when we give up.
FITNESS
( … )
VIOLENCE
( … )
COURAGE
Courage isn’t the absence of fear, it’s the strength to move forward in the face of fear. Courage is perhaps the most vital virtue to develop. When we feel the fear and do it anyway we develop courage.
MINDFULNESS
( … )
LOYALTY
Staying true to yourself and standing by someone else’s side when they face adversity is mastery of loyalty. Never giving up on someone, no matter how hard it gets, for as long as it takes: that is the true measure of any great relationship.
RESPECT
The respect you show to others is a reflection of your self respect. For this reason, respect is something you do for yourself. That doesn’t mean you have to agree with others, but you simply value yourself enough to give others respect.
HONOR
Honor is respecting those over you and acting in a way that is deserving of respect from those under you. Honor is the reputation and alliance that you earn from those you serve and those who serve you.
AUTHENTICY
Being true to yourself isn’t easy. Pulling off the mask that hides your flaws and living in the fullness of who your are creates a contagion that gives others the courage to do the same.
COOPERATION
The most important virtue for success is the ability to cooperate. If you can’t play well with others you’re going to get kicked out of the sandbox. Learn to cooperate and you’ll be successful.
TEAMWORK
( … )
HONESTY
You are only as good as your word. If your word isn’t worth anything, then you have lost a piece of your soul. Being honest is difficult, but it is the bedrock of character. A house is only as strong as its foundation.
INTEGRITY
Integrity is the solidarity of our virtues; it is the quality by which we live out our values and prioritize our principles. It is the culmination of character in action. To act with integrity is to be a good man.
HUMILITY
Humility is the leadership quality of taking the brunt of the blame when things go south and giving away the majority of the credit when things go well. The leader who practices humility will never ask anyone to do what they themselves cannot do. Humility is leading from a position of service.
PRUDENCE
Prudence is the capacity to face reality squarely in the eye, without allowing emotion or ego to get in the way, and do what is best for the team.
TACT
Be honest, but be tactful. Remember there is another human being on the other end of your words. Strive to live by the golden rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
EMPATHY
Empathy is the ability to put aside your ego, step into someone else’s shoes and experience their emotions. When we do this, we create connection. The number one emotional need we all have is for connection.
COMPASSION
The ability to step outside of yourself and perform an act of selflessness: this is the foundation of compassion. To be compassionate is to value others above yourself for the sole purpose of contributing to the greater good.
GRACE
Grace is giving something to someone who hasn’t earned it, doesn’t deserve it and yet we give it anyway. Simply put, grace is giving someone dessert even though they didn’t eat their vegetables.
FORGIVENESS
When we forgive we are giving up our right to collect on a debt. “An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind,” said Gandhi. When I no longer have the need for revenge, then I have forgiven.
KINDNESS
There is strength in kindness. A simple smile, a kind word or even an arm on a shoulder can change someone’s life for the better and thereby change the world … Kindness is your super-power.
GENEROSITY
Maya Angelou said, “People won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.” Be generous with how you treat everyone … they will feel amazing and so will you.
GRATITUDE
Did you know you can’t be resentful and grateful at the same time? Try it. To be truly grateful is to consider all the gifts you have been given and to understand that no matter what, there is always something for which to be grateful.
PATIENCE
There is no truer act of love than patience … just ask anyone who has raised a two-year-old.
ADAPTABILITY
“Improvise, Adapt and Overcome” is the mantra of the United States Marine Corps. Adaptability is the ability to be flexible to change and gain the advantage in any situation. Things that aren’t adaptable break … things that aren’t adaptable don’t survive.
CONTENTMENT
Dissatisfaction is the misconception that you need more than what you already have. Contentment is a mind-set: it’s choosing not to look at lack but see the abundance that already exists.James Lyons Sr.Damn……does that mean I didn’t invent neuro(plus)plastictesis…I just tried to rebrand a known I known process?
Gosh darn it, the more ya know.
Good thing I didn’t try and claim it someone would sue me.Jul 12, 2018 3:07pmCurt Doolittleits called ‘stoicism’. Really. The rest of stoicism is merely exploration of the individual virtues – selecting from the chinese menu and making use of them to create your dish of life.Jul 12, 2018 3:13pmPaul FranklinDon’t need nothing else, when you have this. I mean, don’t need no other religion, no ‘God’ required.
No other God than the one before we are completely honest? And when that is we ourselves?Jul 12, 2018 4:22pmVictor AckermanFantastic post. A very importantly timed one for me. Thank you for your wisdom.Jul 12, 2018 8:08pmCurt DoolittleIll work on refining it a bit. Not quite there.Jul 12, 2018 8:12pmJames SantagataWhat I love about this stuff, is that many of us, me including, stumbled on this,as the only thing that made sense in a Blue-Pilled world and it is so comforting to say, “omg, this is actually a fully formed philosophy” BUT we have the added advantage of neuroscience and 2.000 years of accumulated history to take it even further. Love it.Jul 12, 2018 9:17pmJames SantagataAnd microeconomics + nanoeconomics + behavioral economics. Omg, I’m gonna orgasm. We have the Holy Grail.Jul 12, 2018 9:20pmCurt Doolittle@[525087895:2048:James Santagata] expand on that so I can post it?Jul 12, 2018 9:21pmJames Santagata@[741197263:2048:Curt Doolittle] We can now mathematically model Stoicism and we understand not just ourselves but everyone we interact with, through (as you are wont to say) incentives, we can look at max and min as well as elasticity / inelasticity through microeconomics and with all this granular data, we can look at nanoeconomisc (individual transaction) and then set all this against behavioral economisc / neuroeconomics and see that Stoicism is the way forward and we can improve it Stoicism 2.0 but added a few things and emphasizing a few others.Jul 12, 2018 9:25pmCurt Doolittlenow, give me a replacement for “what I love about this stuff”
what ‘stuff’Jul 12, 2018 9:42pmJames SantagataWhat is powerful about Stoicism is that forces us to maintain an INTERNAL locus of control along with high agency. At the same time, filtering out emotions by considering what we have rather than what we don’t and aligning with natural law allow us to think, calculate and act in the most efficient, effective manner possible. Conserving energy, creating the smallest emotional wake (for ourselves and others, thus mitigating or eliminating negative 2nd and 3rd order effects) and economizing motion as well as emotion (Jim Beam talking).Jul 12, 2018 9:46pmJames Lyons Sr.Bourbon! I knew your fire was fueled proper like!
Basil Hayden is my favorite libationJul 12, 2018 9:52pmJohn MarkCurt do your dozen or two plans have significant overlap? (Are some of them variations of the same basic outline with same basic goal?)Jul 13, 2018 12:27amJohn MarkBTW powerful post & I love the list of virtues. It seems a person could choose to pursue virtues that shore up weaknesses e.g. in Big5 personality traits (if naturally high agreeableness, pursue assertiveness).Jul 13, 2018 12:27amCurt Doolittleyes ;)Jul 13, 2018 1:56amGreg HamiltonThe Tactical Virtues: Strength, Courage, Mastery, and Honor.
Well worth the read
https://amzn.to/2ukiX6xJul 13, 2018 2:05amTobias DarbyJordan Peterson, Eat your heart out.. this is a proper guide..Jul 13, 2018 2:42amTobias DarbyI like tactical violenceJul 13, 2018 2:46amPatrick HabetsJul 13, 2018 3:24amTobias DarbyHi @[741197263:2048:Curt Doolittle].
I had a shot at violence..
VIOLENCE:
Be polite. Keep your word. Threats without action are lies. Avoid ultimatums unless you are prepared to follow up on your end of the bargain.. Protect you and yours. Self Defence is a responsibility, not merely a right. Violence will solve most problems. Order and Justice are simply synonyms for violence.Jul 13, 2018 4:06amCurt Doolittleexcellent!!!Jul 13, 2018 7:57amCurt Doolittlewhat’s that from?Jul 13, 2018 7:57amJames Santagata@[741197263:2048:Curt Doolittle] Great paper — “RETHINKING OUR COMPOSING, RECOMPOSING OUR THINKING: COMPOSITION STUDIES AND COGNITIVE PSYCHOLOGY CONSIDER WRITING” from page 4 (the abstract down) https://libres.uncg.edu/ir/wcu/f/FergusonOles2011.pdfJul 13, 2018 8:04amPatrick HabetsWhoso would be a man must be a nonconformist. Ralph Waldo Emerson
The warrior is a nonconformist. He refuses to lower his standards or his code of ethics to please others. The fact that other men may consider this action or that action to be acceptable, means nothing to the warrior. He is not interested in conforming to the opinions of others. He is only interested in living up to his own standards which he sets for himself.
If the warrior was the type of man that simply went along with the crowd, he would not be so rare. Anyone can bend their standards to conform to the standards of the day, but it takes a real man to stand firm concerning his ethics when all other men are trying to convince him to conform to their way of thinking. The warrior has to not only have confidence in his own code of honor, but also has to have confidence in his ability to walk alone against the tide of public opinion.
This attitude of independence is what makes the warrior a rare man of honor. He does what he knows in his heart to be right, independent of what anyone else says or does. He refuses to play the game of situational ethics. His ethics are set in stone.
Others may not be able to decipher his code or understand his way of thinking, but they know that the warrior is a man of principle. He is not a man that can be manipulated by popular opinion or moral fads. The true warrior is a true nonconformist and always has been. Bohdi Sanders ~ author of the TOP 15 Bestseller, BUSHIDO: The Way of the Warrior, available on Amazon at: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B075TH53C9. Signed copies are available from: https://thewisdomwarrior.com.Jul 13, 2018 9:38amBryan Nova Brey@[29900084:2048:Maddy Smith] to improve agency.Jul 13, 2018 12:58pmGreg HamiltonI prefer strategic violence. But violence is a tool.Jul 13, 2018 1:08pmJorn BirxGood.Jul 14, 2018 8:03amNick ZitoAccountability !?!Jul 20, 2018 3:58amPatrick HabetsWhy do they hate the samurai?Jul 20, 2018 3:59amSELF AUTHORING – STOICISM IS THE ANVIL OF THE SELF
(Stoicism in Scientific Terms)
Self Authoring and Journaling are the best training you can give yourself – other than basic physical fitness. I promise you.
Why? Because we evolved our minds to search for possibilities optimistically. So its very easy to say stupid things to yourself in the madness of the moment; and much harder to write down stupid things in organized prose; and much, much harder to read stupid things you’ve written in organized prose even a day later. So journaling rapidly teaches you the frailty of human contemplation and forecasting. It teaches you intellectual honesty. This is why, prior to the leftist destruction of education, we were all taught to keep a diary (journal) of our thoughts – once we have any to journal that is. 😉
Self authoring is simply setting goals for yourself for life, the year, and the day. And reviewing them. And revising them. That’s it.
If you add two checklists to your life goals (“seven habits”) so that you satisfy your full self’s needs. And a set of “virtues” (you must select from the virtues you want, not assume all virtues will help you), then this is effectively a project plan for your life, that provides you with mindfulness.
If you read Marcus Aurelius, do so with the intent of learning how to write to yourself. His book is the best living example of an exceptional man’s use of thinking about his thoughts of the day, by writing them down.
You must write honestly. Most of us will write very simple things. We are not Marcus Aurelius, Emperor. We are mere Warriors for the Working Day.
And you must not worry about the structure of your prose – punctuation or sentence structure or spelling even. That will come with practice.
All plans are created only to assist you in thinking and measuring yourself, as well as insulating you from the opinions and coercions of others.
However, the best strategic plan is opportunism in pursuit of your goals, and searching for and creating opportunities for the achievement of your goals. And so any plan is merely the default opportunity you plan to seize unless a better opportunity for a different plan surprises you.
I work (like Napoleon) by doing an exhaustive amount of research then making a dozen or two plans, and then doing whatever will advance the majority of those plans, so that by accident of iteration, one of the twelve plans (or more) will work out. This is too computationally difficult for many people so keeping it simple is better for them. You have to discover your own equilibrium plan, revision, and opportunity – by trial and error.
Now, I find that fb and my web site, and emails to myself work as a good journal for me and I just mark private stuff private (for me only). The reason is that when I write in public I am even more honest with myself than when I write to myself in private. This is a trick of personal psychology. All of us are different. I have a lot of confidence and so I don’t mind being public. Others won’t be.
And the only way to ensure that you are not talking madness to yourself (letting the elephant run away with the rider), is to write it down and review your progress.
You wouldn’t believe how much your mind will lie to you on behalf of the Elephant if you do not keep a journal on the directions of the Rider.
But the fact remains – you are able to master yourself (agency) by practice if you are willing to spend 90 days practicing.
After a year you will find you are dependent upon using the writing to feel you are thinking clearly and organizing your thoughts.
When you have an idea and immediately feel the draw to ‘write it out’ and organize your thoughts then you are engaged in Self Authoring, and the training is complete. It’s only application after that.
If you do this you will need no self-help books, no great philosophies, no religions, no teachers, other than to read a book that expands your knowledge now and then.
There is no secret to the Ritual of Self Authoring, and questioning information as to whether it improves your goals or not.
No one else’s opinions or attitudes matter. Events do not matter. All that matters is your gradual progress to your virtues and goals.
-THE VIRTUES-
EXCELLENCE
Excellence is striving is to be better than the day before, never giving in to the voice that says, “That’s good enough.” Instead, listen for the voice that says, “Now that’s awesome!”
ASSERTIVENESS
Unapologetically go after what you want in life. Be assertive and let the world feel the full weight of who you are. Live with passion … without being a jackass.
COMPETITIVENESS
( … )
COMMITMENT
Do what you say you’re going to do without excuse. Suit up, show up everyday, and give your best effort.
TENACITY
Tenacity is the ability to stick it out and never give up, to keep going when things are tough and there is no end in sight. This is the only way to live a life of contentedness because regret only happens when we give up.
FITNESS
( … )
VIOLENCE
( … )
COURAGE
Courage isn’t the absence of fear, it’s the strength to move forward in the face of fear. Courage is perhaps the most vital virtue to develop. When we feel the fear and do it anyway we develop courage.
MINDFULNESS
( … )
LOYALTY
Staying true to yourself and standing by someone else’s side when they face adversity is mastery of loyalty. Never giving up on someone, no matter how hard it gets, for as long as it takes: that is the true measure of any great relationship.
RESPECT
The respect you show to others is a reflection of your self respect. For this reason, respect is something you do for yourself. That doesn’t mean you have to agree with others, but you simply value yourself enough to give others respect.
HONOR
Honor is respecting those over you and acting in a way that is deserving of respect from those under you. Honor is the reputation and alliance that you earn from those you serve and those who serve you.
AUTHENTICY
Being true to yourself isn’t easy. Pulling off the mask that hides your flaws and living in the fullness of who your are creates a contagion that gives others the courage to do the same.
COOPERATION
The most important virtue for success is the ability to cooperate. If you can’t play well with others you’re going to get kicked out of the sandbox. Learn to cooperate and you’ll be successful.
TEAMWORK
( … )
HONESTY
You are only as good as your word. If your word isn’t worth anything, then you have lost a piece of your soul. Being honest is difficult, but it is the bedrock of character. A house is only as strong as its foundation.
INTEGRITY
Integrity is the solidarity of our virtues; it is the quality by which we live out our values and prioritize our principles. It is the culmination of character in action. To act with integrity is to be a good man.
HUMILITY
Humility is the leadership quality of taking the brunt of the blame when things go south and giving away the majority of the credit when things go well. The leader who practices humility will never ask anyone to do what they themselves cannot do. Humility is leading from a position of service.
PRUDENCE
Prudence is the capacity to face reality squarely in the eye, without allowing emotion or ego to get in the way, and do what is best for the team.
TACT
Be honest, but be tactful. Remember there is another human being on the other end of your words. Strive to live by the golden rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
EMPATHY
Empathy is the ability to put aside your ego, step into someone else’s shoes and experience their emotions. When we do this, we create connection. The number one emotional need we all have is for connection.
COMPASSION
The ability to step outside of yourself and perform an act of selflessness: this is the foundation of compassion. To be compassionate is to value others above yourself for the sole purpose of contributing to the greater good.
GRACE
Grace is giving something to someone who hasn’t earned it, doesn’t deserve it and yet we give it anyway. Simply put, grace is giving someone dessert even though they didn’t eat their vegetables.
FORGIVENESS
When we forgive we are giving up our right to collect on a debt. “An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind,” said Gandhi. When I no longer have the need for revenge, then I have forgiven.
KINDNESS
There is strength in kindness. A simple smile, a kind word or even an arm on a shoulder can change someone’s life for the better and thereby change the world … Kindness is your super-power.
GENEROSITY
Maya Angelou said, “People won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.” Be generous with how you treat everyone … they will feel amazing and so will you.
GRATITUDE
Did you know you can’t be resentful and grateful at the same time? Try it. To be truly grateful is to consider all the gifts you have been given and to understand that no matter what, there is always something for which to be grateful.
PATIENCE
There is no truer act of love than patience … just ask anyone who has raised a two-year-old.
ADAPTABILITY
“Improvise, Adapt and Overcome” is the mantra of the United States Marine Corps. Adaptability is the ability to be flexible to change and gain the advantage in any situation. Things that aren’t adaptable break … things that aren’t adaptable don’t survive.
CONTENTMENT
Dissatisfaction is the misconception that you need more than what you already have. Contentment is a mind-set: it’s choosing not to look at lack but see the abundance that already exists.
—“Education-associated genes”? I’m a bit skeptical that such are really verified.”—Rich Berger
It’s just a politically correct term for the 1000+ IQ correlated genes that have been discovered as yet. Most public estimations of IQ are done by degrees (a very bad proxy by the way), and by framing education related genes rather than IQ they circumvent criticism by the anti-IQ-measurement groups.
(Stoicism in Scientific Terms)
Self Authoring and Journaling are the best training you can give yourself – other than basic physical fitness. I promise you.
Why? Because we evolved our minds to search for possibilities optimistically. So its very easy to say stupid things to yourself in the madness of the moment; and much harder to write down stupid things in organized prose; and much, much harder to read stupid things you’ve written in organized prose even a day later. So journaling rapidly teaches you the frailty of human contemplation and forecasting. It teaches you intellectual honesty. This is why, prior to the leftist destruction of education, we were all taught to keep a diary (journal) of our thoughts – once we have any to journal that is. 😉
Self authoring is simply setting goals for yourself for life, the year, and the day. And reviewing them. And revising them. That’s it.
If you add two checklists to your life goals (“seven habits”) so that you satisfy your full self’s needs. And a set of “virtues” (you must select from the virtues you want, not assume all virtues will help you), then this is effectively a project plan for your life, that provides you with mindfulness.
If you read Marcus Aurelius, do so with the intent of learning how to write to yourself. His book is the best living example of an exceptional man’s use of thinking about his thoughts of the day, by writing them down.
You must write honestly. Most of us will write very simple things. We are not Marcus Aurelius, Emperor. We are mere Warriors for the Working Day.
And you must not worry about the structure of your prose – punctuation or sentence structure or spelling even. That will come with practice.
All plans are created only to assist you in thinking and measuring yourself, as well as insulating you from the opinions and coercions of others.
However, the best strategic plan is opportunism in pursuit of your goals, and searching for and creating opportunities for the achievement of your goals. And so any plan is merely the default opportunity you plan to seize unless a better opportunity for a different plan surprises you.
I work (like Napoleon) by doing an exhaustive amount of research then making a dozen or two plans, and then doing whatever will advance the majority of those plans, so that by accident of iteration, one of the twelve plans (or more) will work out. This is too computationally difficult for many people so keeping it simple is better for them. You have to discover your own equilibrium plan, revision, and opportunity – by trial and error.
Now, I find that fb and my web site, and emails to myself work as a good journal for me and I just mark private stuff private (for me only). The reason is that when I write in public I am even more honest with myself than when I write to myself in private. This is a trick of personal psychology. All of us are different. I have a lot of confidence and so I don’t mind being public. Others won’t be.
And the only way to ensure that you are not talking madness to yourself (letting the elephant run away with the rider), is to write it down and review your progress.
You wouldn’t believe how much your mind will lie to you on behalf of the Elephant if you do not keep a journal on the directions of the Rider.
But the fact remains – you are able to master yourself (agency) by practice if you are willing to spend 90 days practicing.
After a year you will find you are dependent upon using the writing to feel you are thinking clearly and organizing your thoughts.
When you have an idea and immediately feel the draw to ‘write it out’ and organize your thoughts then you are engaged in Self Authoring, and the training is complete. It’s only application after that.
If you do this you will need no self-help books, no great philosophies, no religions, no teachers, other than to read a book that expands your knowledge now and then.
There is no secret to the Ritual of Self Authoring, and questioning information as to whether it improves your goals or not.
No one else’s opinions or attitudes matter. Events do not matter. All that matters is your gradual progress to your virtues and goals.
-THE VIRTUES-
EXCELLENCE
Excellence is striving is to be better than the day before, never giving in to the voice that says, “That’s good enough.” Instead, listen for the voice that says, “Now that’s awesome!”
ASSERTIVENESS
Unapologetically go after what you want in life. Be assertive and let the world feel the full weight of who you are. Live with passion … without being a jackass.
COMPETITIVENESS
( … )
COMMITMENT
Do what you say you’re going to do without excuse. Suit up, show up everyday, and give your best effort.
TENACITY
Tenacity is the ability to stick it out and never give up, to keep going when things are tough and there is no end in sight. This is the only way to live a life of contentedness because regret only happens when we give up.
FITNESS
( … )
VIOLENCE
( … )
COURAGE
Courage isn’t the absence of fear, it’s the strength to move forward in the face of fear. Courage is perhaps the most vital virtue to develop. When we feel the fear and do it anyway we develop courage.
MINDFULNESS
( … )
LOYALTY
Staying true to yourself and standing by someone else’s side when they face adversity is mastery of loyalty. Never giving up on someone, no matter how hard it gets, for as long as it takes: that is the true measure of any great relationship.
RESPECT
The respect you show to others is a reflection of your self respect. For this reason, respect is something you do for yourself. That doesn’t mean you have to agree with others, but you simply value yourself enough to give others respect.
HONOR
Honor is respecting those over you and acting in a way that is deserving of respect from those under you. Honor is the reputation and alliance that you earn from those you serve and those who serve you.
AUTHENTICY
Being true to yourself isn’t easy. Pulling off the mask that hides your flaws and living in the fullness of who your are creates a contagion that gives others the courage to do the same.
COOPERATION
The most important virtue for success is the ability to cooperate. If you can’t play well with others you’re going to get kicked out of the sandbox. Learn to cooperate and you’ll be successful.
TEAMWORK
( … )
HONESTY
You are only as good as your word. If your word isn’t worth anything, then you have lost a piece of your soul. Being honest is difficult, but it is the bedrock of character. A house is only as strong as its foundation.
INTEGRITY
Integrity is the solidarity of our virtues; it is the quality by which we live out our values and prioritize our principles. It is the culmination of character in action. To act with integrity is to be a good man.
HUMILITY
Humility is the leadership quality of taking the brunt of the blame when things go south and giving away the majority of the credit when things go well. The leader who practices humility will never ask anyone to do what they themselves cannot do. Humility is leading from a position of service.
PRUDENCE
Prudence is the capacity to face reality squarely in the eye, without allowing emotion or ego to get in the way, and do what is best for the team.
TACT
Be honest, but be tactful. Remember there is another human being on the other end of your words. Strive to live by the golden rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
EMPATHY
Empathy is the ability to put aside your ego, step into someone else’s shoes and experience their emotions. When we do this, we create connection. The number one emotional need we all have is for connection.
COMPASSION
The ability to step outside of yourself and perform an act of selflessness: this is the foundation of compassion. To be compassionate is to value others above yourself for the sole purpose of contributing to the greater good.
GRACE
Grace is giving something to someone who hasn’t earned it, doesn’t deserve it and yet we give it anyway. Simply put, grace is giving someone dessert even though they didn’t eat their vegetables.
FORGIVENESS
When we forgive we are giving up our right to collect on a debt. “An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind,” said Gandhi. When I no longer have the need for revenge, then I have forgiven.
KINDNESS
There is strength in kindness. A simple smile, a kind word or even an arm on a shoulder can change someone’s life for the better and thereby change the world … Kindness is your super-power.
GENEROSITY
Maya Angelou said, “People won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.” Be generous with how you treat everyone … they will feel amazing and so will you.
GRATITUDE
Did you know you can’t be resentful and grateful at the same time? Try it. To be truly grateful is to consider all the gifts you have been given and to understand that no matter what, there is always something for which to be grateful.
PATIENCE
There is no truer act of love than patience … just ask anyone who has raised a two-year-old.
ADAPTABILITY
“Improvise, Adapt and Overcome” is the mantra of the United States Marine Corps. Adaptability is the ability to be flexible to change and gain the advantage in any situation. Things that aren’t adaptable break … things that aren’t adaptable don’t survive.
CONTENTMENT
Dissatisfaction is the misconception that you need more than what you already have. Contentment is a mind-set: it’s choosing not to look at lack but see the abundance that already exists.
(Stoicism in Scientific Terms)
Self Authoring and Journaling are the best training you can give yourself – other than basic physical fitness. I promise you.
Why? Because we evolved our minds to search for possibilities optimistically. So its very easy to say stupid things to yourself in the madness of the moment; and much harder to write down stupid things in organized prose; and much, much harder to read stupid things you’ve written in organized prose even a day later. So journaling rapidly teaches you the frailty of human contemplation and forecasting. It teaches you intellectual honesty. This is why, prior to the leftist destruction of education, we were all taught to keep a diary (journal) of our thoughts – once we have any to journal that is. 😉
Self authoring is simply setting goals for yourself for life, the year, and the day. And reviewing them. And revising them. That’s it.
If you add two checklists to your life goals (“seven habits”) so that you satisfy your full self’s needs. And a set of “virtues” (you must select from the virtues you want, not assume all virtues will help you), then this is effectively a project plan for your life, that provides you with mindfulness.
If you read Marcus Aurelius, do so with the intent of learning how to write to yourself. His book is the best living example of an exceptional man’s use of thinking about his thoughts of the day, by writing them down.
You must write honestly. Most of us will write very simple things. We are not Marcus Aurelius, Emperor. We are mere Warriors for the Working Day.
And you must not worry about the structure of your prose – punctuation or sentence structure or spelling even. That will come with practice.
All plans are created only to assist you in thinking and measuring yourself, as well as insulating you from the opinions and coercions of others.
However, the best strategic plan is opportunism in pursuit of your goals, and searching for and creating opportunities for the achievement of your goals. And so any plan is merely the default opportunity you plan to seize unless a better opportunity for a different plan surprises you.
I work (like Napoleon) by doing an exhaustive amount of research then making a dozen or two plans, and then doing whatever will advance the majority of those plans, so that by accident of iteration, one of the twelve plans (or more) will work out. This is too computationally difficult for many people so keeping it simple is better for them. You have to discover your own equilibrium plan, revision, and opportunity – by trial and error.
Now, I find that fb and my web site, and emails to myself work as a good journal for me and I just mark private stuff private (for me only). The reason is that when I write in public I am even more honest with myself than when I write to myself in private. This is a trick of personal psychology. All of us are different. I have a lot of confidence and so I don’t mind being public. Others won’t be.
And the only way to ensure that you are not talking madness to yourself (letting the elephant run away with the rider), is to write it down and review your progress.
You wouldn’t believe how much your mind will lie to you on behalf of the Elephant if you do not keep a journal on the directions of the Rider.
But the fact remains – you are able to master yourself (agency) by practice if you are willing to spend 90 days practicing.
After a year you will find you are dependent upon using the writing to feel you are thinking clearly and organizing your thoughts.
When you have an idea and immediately feel the draw to ‘write it out’ and organize your thoughts then you are engaged in Self Authoring, and the training is complete. It’s only application after that.
If you do this you will need no self-help books, no great philosophies, no religions, no teachers, other than to read a book that expands your knowledge now and then.
There is no secret to the Ritual of Self Authoring, and questioning information as to whether it improves your goals or not.
No one else’s opinions or attitudes matter. Events do not matter. All that matters is your gradual progress to your virtues and goals.
-THE VIRTUES-
EXCELLENCE
Excellence is striving is to be better than the day before, never giving in to the voice that says, “That’s good enough.” Instead, listen for the voice that says, “Now that’s awesome!”
ASSERTIVENESS
Unapologetically go after what you want in life. Be assertive and let the world feel the full weight of who you are. Live with passion … without being a jackass.
COMPETITIVENESS
( … )
COMMITMENT
Do what you say you’re going to do without excuse. Suit up, show up everyday, and give your best effort.
TENACITY
Tenacity is the ability to stick it out and never give up, to keep going when things are tough and there is no end in sight. This is the only way to live a life of contentedness because regret only happens when we give up.
FITNESS
( … )
VIOLENCE
( … )
COURAGE
Courage isn’t the absence of fear, it’s the strength to move forward in the face of fear. Courage is perhaps the most vital virtue to develop. When we feel the fear and do it anyway we develop courage.
MINDFULNESS
( … )
LOYALTY
Staying true to yourself and standing by someone else’s side when they face adversity is mastery of loyalty. Never giving up on someone, no matter how hard it gets, for as long as it takes: that is the true measure of any great relationship.
RESPECT
The respect you show to others is a reflection of your self respect. For this reason, respect is something you do for yourself. That doesn’t mean you have to agree with others, but you simply value yourself enough to give others respect.
HONOR
Honor is respecting those over you and acting in a way that is deserving of respect from those under you. Honor is the reputation and alliance that you earn from those you serve and those who serve you.
AUTHENTICY
Being true to yourself isn’t easy. Pulling off the mask that hides your flaws and living in the fullness of who your are creates a contagion that gives others the courage to do the same.
COOPERATION
The most important virtue for success is the ability to cooperate. If you can’t play well with others you’re going to get kicked out of the sandbox. Learn to cooperate and you’ll be successful.
TEAMWORK
( … )
HONESTY
You are only as good as your word. If your word isn’t worth anything, then you have lost a piece of your soul. Being honest is difficult, but it is the bedrock of character. A house is only as strong as its foundation.
INTEGRITY
Integrity is the solidarity of our virtues; it is the quality by which we live out our values and prioritize our principles. It is the culmination of character in action. To act with integrity is to be a good man.
HUMILITY
Humility is the leadership quality of taking the brunt of the blame when things go south and giving away the majority of the credit when things go well. The leader who practices humility will never ask anyone to do what they themselves cannot do. Humility is leading from a position of service.
PRUDENCE
Prudence is the capacity to face reality squarely in the eye, without allowing emotion or ego to get in the way, and do what is best for the team.
TACT
Be honest, but be tactful. Remember there is another human being on the other end of your words. Strive to live by the golden rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
EMPATHY
Empathy is the ability to put aside your ego, step into someone else’s shoes and experience their emotions. When we do this, we create connection. The number one emotional need we all have is for connection.
COMPASSION
The ability to step outside of yourself and perform an act of selflessness: this is the foundation of compassion. To be compassionate is to value others above yourself for the sole purpose of contributing to the greater good.
GRACE
Grace is giving something to someone who hasn’t earned it, doesn’t deserve it and yet we give it anyway. Simply put, grace is giving someone dessert even though they didn’t eat their vegetables.
FORGIVENESS
When we forgive we are giving up our right to collect on a debt. “An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind,” said Gandhi. When I no longer have the need for revenge, then I have forgiven.
KINDNESS
There is strength in kindness. A simple smile, a kind word or even an arm on a shoulder can change someone’s life for the better and thereby change the world … Kindness is your super-power.
GENEROSITY
Maya Angelou said, “People won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.” Be generous with how you treat everyone … they will feel amazing and so will you.
GRATITUDE
Did you know you can’t be resentful and grateful at the same time? Try it. To be truly grateful is to consider all the gifts you have been given and to understand that no matter what, there is always something for which to be grateful.
PATIENCE
There is no truer act of love than patience … just ask anyone who has raised a two-year-old.
ADAPTABILITY
“Improvise, Adapt and Overcome” is the mantra of the United States Marine Corps. Adaptability is the ability to be flexible to change and gain the advantage in any situation. Things that aren’t adaptable break … things that aren’t adaptable don’t survive.
CONTENTMENT
Dissatisfaction is the misconception that you need more than what you already have. Contentment is a mind-set: it’s choosing not to look at lack but see the abundance that already exists.