DATING It’s not complicated: “Hi. You free this week? Sure, (thinking..) Thursda

DATING
It’s not complicated:

“Hi. You free this week?
Sure, (thinking..) Thursday or Friday evening.
Let’s do Thursday. Just in case, anything (food) you prefer to avoid?
Nothing too spicy, or pasta.
Me. Great. How about I pick you up at 7:00pm? Dress smart casual.
Ok. See you Thursday.”

Pick a place. Make reservations
Clean the car.
Text or call the morning of.
Lay out what you’re going to wear.
Make a mental or email list of topics to talk about.
(go about your day)
Show up on time.
(Extra Points: Give her a chocolate for the drive)
Give her(him) your full attention the entire time.

Any ‘present year’ games that plague the peasantry, then finish, skip, desert, pay, leave, thank him/her. And be off.

Otherwise, keep chatting until the conversation lags, someone is tired, or body language says ‘leave’. Don’t overdo it.

Don’t rush contact or affection. Eagerness is pathetic. For my part, I wait until the woman invades my space. That’s the only sign I know she’s interested. I’m not intuitive enough otherwise.

IMO try to make it work into a permanent relationship with every person you date. If you aren’t trying when you should be trying you won’t know and will ruin it. If it’s not working, it’s fine. You should know if it’s too much work or not within three weeks.

I dunno. I know on the first date. Hard to know why you don’t know the first date. But then I only punch at my weight so to speak, and in my class so to speak. I consider myself average. I sell that I’m cultured, intelligent, confident and successful. But I’m not a ‘catch’. And I suspect that’s the primary problem today -“Illusions.” A byproduct of everyone gets a prize has finally reached into the dating market.

The other thing is that the country has declined from middle class to lower middle class to upper proletarian norms, traditions, values, and expectations. So no one is trying to imitate upper-middle, and middle-class norms manners and ethics. So you ‘get what you do yourself’. The ‘we can relax’ habit has degenerated into upper proletarian public behavior and it’s manifesting in the dating and marriage market.

The dating market has crashed. Let’s see if it corrects and how long it takes – or if it does at all.
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