(Relationships) Feeling dim. Watching and listening to many couples today. I jus

(Relationships)
Feeling dim. Watching and listening to many couples today. I just realized that besides men’s systematic and spatial bias, one of the reasons men focus on the external world is because women so thoroughly monopolize the internal world that they drive men out of it.
Because single men do both. Married men avoid it. Men seek man caves or male spaces because women so thoroughly monopolize the internal (familial) spaces (it’s nesting behavior) that they drive men out of it into spaces where they have agency.
Now, I don’t let this kind of thing happen because I’m too sensitive to my environment. So it’s more that I say ‘these spaces are mine, and those spaces are yours’. This means that I have space for my work and hobbies (meaning a desk in the living room), and space for entertaining (most of which is business related).