(Tip for some of us: I used art classes. (a) I can stand out (b) artsy women are

(Tip for some of us: I used art classes. (a) I can stand out (b) artsy women are awesome, feminine, and largely self entertaining. Maximum femininity, minimum status maintenance with reciprocity-producing demand for ‘connection’ usually including intimacy – at the cost of more than a little ‘listening-affirming’ and psychological effort.)