“Yes, men are indoctrinated to negotiate first, rather than to take by force fir

—“Yes, men are indoctrinated to negotiate first, rather than to take by force first, and negotiate, or compensate last. Many, maybe most men, have this problem. But once you set down the framework, give them the “It’s not your fault” reframing, and give them some contract examples and case studies — without fail they say, “fuck I knew that!” or “fuck I used to do that!” or “fuck, I used to be like that!” And they revert quickly, usually with massive success.”— James Santagata