THE TOTALLY COOL “I LOVE YOU” I’ve been telling people “I love you” with reckles

THE TOTALLY COOL “I LOVE YOU”

I’ve been telling people “I love you” with reckless abandon since I was maybe seventeen?. Started out as a joke. It’s genuine, albeit a bit over the top. I use it everywhere, every time someone shows that they CARE about me or their craft, or the world, or something other than themselves. And despite using it all the time, you know, people don’t get tired of it. Ever. And they eventually adopt using it. ‘Cause it works. It’s beautiful.

I suspect, as a male, you must have a lot of confidence in your masculinity to walk around saying “I love you” to men and women who you’re just complimenting. But that’s kinda never been a problem for me. And at some point I realized that it was a demonstration of confidence in one’s masculinity. It’s sort of like swearing. It’s a sign of honesty.

Most women think I’m flirting with them. But it’s just affection and approval. I hate it when women think I want to hit on them so it’s much easier to get passed it this way, than any other.

We men may run the world, but it’s not all that good a place for us, unless we totally abandon responsibility for it – which a lot of men are doing in increasing numbers. And is an increasingly desirable option. Men are not expensive to maintain. And without all the trappings the state can’t really put its vampire fangs into you. So a good life for a man means opting out. And the data shows it.

So, given that state of affairs, I tend to support men whenever possible – especially young ones who want to feel a bit of heroic charge from working together or fighting the good fight.

And my advice to men is to let other men know when you love them, in a totally cool way, because what it means is that you appreciate them, and that you care about them.

And that’s all most of us want in the world.