Yes, I think what you’re saying is that for a woman sexual engagement, is an exp

Yes, I think what you’re saying is that for a woman sexual engagement, is an expression of vulnerability that is easily suppressed by external anxieties. And that asking a man to achieve that level of vulnerability takes some imagination, provided by the example you stated.

I guess I am having trouble testing that against the evidence. If you said that women’s intuitions in these matters follow a normal distribution and you’re describing one end of it.

I mean, I’ve gained weight since I was ill and turned the corner on age, but I would happily have walked down the street naked and shouting at the top of my lungs if I had something worth saying in such a forum. ;). And I’ve certainly met women (most of them) who were far more aggressive in sexual pursuit than I was. And today the evidence is that the the fk-boys are vastly outnumbered by the number of fk-girls. As such as is usual, male regulation is self regulation because of the risks, while female regulation is provided entirely by other women and pandora is out of the box so to speak without regulation by other women.

Now I can understand that marriage suppresses female interest more so than male interest. And I can understand that marriage and children suppress female capacity to maintain marketability. And I understand as well or more than most the female need for novelty and novel attention vs males. And as such that would drive insecurity. But I’m having difficulty envisioning what I interpret as the extreme position you illustrated. And I’m assuming this is a projection rather than a generalization – because the generalization doesn’t fit the data (also doesn’t fit my experience).

Thanks

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