THE FORMULA FOR RECIPROCITY BETWEEN THE SEXES: RELATIONSHIPS Men should be domin

THE FORMULA FOR RECIPROCITY BETWEEN THE SEXES: RELATIONSHIPS

Men should be dominant (responsible) regardless of context and seek recovery in the affection of women’s respect and ‘care’.

Women should be dominant (responsible) only when and where they wish to and seek recovery in the dominance (responsibility) of men’s respect and ‘care’.

A relationship consists of the echange of putting the other person’s interests at peer or above your own, whenever and wherever it is possible to do so, and the exchange of that priority for mutual gain. By combining the best of each sex, by the only criteria for which we have reason to place one person above the other: care, mating, and reproduction.

You will notice that our organization focuses our attention on first principles, and responsibility is the first principle that most separates the sexes. Why? Male predator bias to control territory and resources with other men, and female prey bias to protect offspring in the sharing of caretaking with other women. It’s baked into our genes.

We are happiest when we figure out how to make the other person feel ‘safe’ (secure, loved), and we each fulfill those responsibilities we can because we can fulfill them most successfully and with the least stress.

Respect and responsibility are two terms that have gone out of tradition and fashion because the left promises self-indulgence and irresponsibility, meaning evasion of conformity to Western high investment commons, and high trust manners, ethics, and morals.

What I notice most in the sequence of generations is the decline in responsibility, respect, reciprocity, suppression of attention seeking, and self-indulgence, in favor of creating a high trust commons whose purpose is creating an environment optimized for the raising of children – instead of the indulgence of consumption by irresponsible hyperconsumptive adults.

I don’t make the rules – Nature does. Evolution did. I just explain the consequences of violating those rules and the tragic cumulative cost of doing so.

Cheers

Curt Doolittle
The Natural Law Institute
The Science of Cooperation