GOING THROUGH YOUR OPPOSITE’S PHONE? I follow Heinlein’s advice that women need

GOING THROUGH YOUR OPPOSITE’S PHONE?
I follow Heinlein’s advice that women need private spaces for their little fears, emotions, loves, copes and insanities, so I don’t want to intrude on her phone, purse, computer, or desk without invitation. But I am happy for any woman I’m in a relationship with (really, any woman at all) to go through my phone. Other than a rather eccentric sense of humor and proper new england man-to-man trash talking, I don’t say anything I wouldn’t want printed in the newspaper. That said, I DO keep a set of directories of photos for every woman I’ve ever been in a relationship with – because I love all of them (at least in memory) and it makes me happy to review them now and then. And I would expect a woman to respect my love of those memories like I would respect hers. I’ve told each woman I do this, and for some reason they think it’s fine. They just don’t want to look thru them themselves. 😉 I can think of a few exceptions when I’ve talked to an ex about a problem of hers or mine that I’d prefer were kept private, but I generally would communicate what I’d done and said, so that my mate wouldn’t have reason to doubt.